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moh advice!

Natasha-Dawn, 28 July, 2022 at 15:30 Posted on Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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Hello everyone!

So I’m looking for a bit of advice regarding a maid of honour situation!
For some context -
So I have two friends, Friend a) who has been my friend since we were a 11 and for years. We were close for a long time but for the last 5 years I would say we aren’t as much but she is still like a sister to me! We’ve talked about being maid of honours for each other since we were little! However I would say our views are very different on a lot of things and she doesn’t even want to get married anymore.
Friend B) My other friend has been my bestfriend since the minute we met like 5 years ago, we are super close, super alike and I’m her MOH in 8 weeks time!
The advice I’m looking for…. I know I want Friend B to be MOH but I’m worried and anxious about how I tell friend A. I don’t want to upset her and she can be quite jealous and gets easily upset and worry that she will not handle it well and make me feel bad. So how do I tell her?

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RomanticGreenStationery27135 · 28 July, 2022 at 16:48
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Just tell her. If she's going to get nasty about it, then she's not a very good friend in the first place.
Alternatively, don't have a MOH - just have two bridesmaids.
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Michelle · 28 July, 2022 at 16:52
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Agree tell her now or have 2 bridesmaids or you could have 2 moh but its best getting sorted there could be a fall out but its not to be expected x💗
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Charlotte · 28 July, 2022 at 20:48
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Agree with above, just have 2 bridesmaids, they can then split duties and both be there to support you on the day. If she questions the role I would say you couldn't decide and the main thing is both of them being part of the day and you don't need to define their role, you just want them both as per of your day. If she gets lucky them it shows your friendship is maybe not what you thought. Being asked the play any part in a bridal party is an honour and should not be questioned. Wish you luck x
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Natasha-Dawn · 28 July, 2022 at 21:06
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Yeah having two MOH or just all bridesmaid is defiantly a good idea. I’ve just always imagined myself with 1 MOH and I feel like it’s what I want.

But I think this might be the less hurtful way.
Thanks for the advices girls!
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Charlotte · 28 July, 2022 at 22:04
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If it is what you want them go for it, is your day and you don't need to justify anything you choose to anyone. Am sure she will be fine, as you say things change and you are not as close so you do you hun x
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