Money instead of gifts

This is totally normal these days and is what we are doing. We added a note in the insert with the invitations and asked people to use our PayPal account . We phrased it in a nice way! I’m 45 and my fiancé is 50 so we are hardly just starting out!

I think its upto you most days people have everythin they want when getting married. Doing this way you can both pick a gift with the money that will be of use to you both x 💗

As the others say, it's totally up to you but I know a lot of people don't like the idea of giving cash as it's so hard to decide how much to give. You could buy quite a nice present for £20 but may feel that £20 cash isn't very much. Just think of a nice way to phrase it.

You're never going to please everyone so do whatever you feel is right for you!

We've specifically asked people to not give us anything at all. Our friends got a snow globe as a wedding present and it's put me off asking for gifts!!!

Thank you for your responses!
I wouldn't expect more than a fiver tbh 😂

We are the same, our house was flooded and fully refurbed last year and everything was replaced so we do not need anything, and I don't like 'stuff' like nik naks or things with no real use, so we we put the below on our invites. Some people have asked for the bank info and others have said they will give cash or cheque in a card, which is fine with us.

We have been asked about a gift list, but as we have been together for 5 years and and have already accumulated quite a life together and have no need for anything. If you feel you would like to gift us with more than your presence, a contribution towards our honeymoon would be greatly appreciated. We have set up a bank account and we will be happy to share the details with you. However, what we really hope for is that we get to celebrate our special day with you.

I'm erring on adding a small registry of items if people really want to by a thing (a range of price points, even down to our favourite type or gin or wine so all the gifts aren't like hey buy me a snazzy new cappuccino machine). So then we'd be saying something like: we already have set up our home and really don't need much so if you would like to gift us something and are happy gifting cash we'd really appreciate it and would put it towards our honeymoon, alternatively if you would feel more comfortable gifting a physical item here is a small registry of things we know we would use. And then something along the lines of the fact that making the effort to be there on our day is more than enough so please don't feel the need to gift anything.

We’re doing very similar to Chloe. We’ve said what we really want is for people to be there but, if they really want to get us something, we’d be very grateful for contributions towards the honeymoon or, if they want to get us a thing, here’s a small list. I’ve heard that some people will, no matter what you say, want to get a physical gift so we figured worth putting a list of some stuff we’d like - it’s mainly upgrades on things we’ve already got - nice pots/pans, sheets, towels etc.

Thank you for the advice ladies 🥰

I think that money is always the best gift.

Great advice!

Nice gift so far. I like your way of thinking.