Most Overdone Wedding Trends

Oh god .. I'M LOST IN THAT THREAD AGAIN!! (Will it get voted thread of the year again this years hitched awards?)

I think it's possibly only over-done if someone does the things on the list just to 'be cool' or the feel it's expected of them rather than because it suits them and their wedding. On my travels through pinterest I have seen all of these things done well and looking lovely, and equally some gone horribly wrong (in my opinion, but then the couple of those weddings might have loved them too.)

The only one we're considering is the 'pick a seat, not a side' sign. We definitely will be having a 'pick a seat wedding' as OH doesn't really have much family and my family is huge. If we go for it we won't be using the 2 families united line....we're either going to leave it to the usher to make sure people mingle, or re-word the sign to say, 'Today is about uniting people, please don't take sides' But I would happily have anything on that list if it suited us as a couple or our guests better than what we already have planned.

Now off to get lost in the hilarity of the other post!

Supposed to be getting an early night but you lot have ruined it by posting that link. Page 10 is brilliant.

people really do get quite upset when people they have never met wouldnt enjoy their event that they wont be invited too.

OMG! Made it to page 15 of the old one before my boss caught me slacking! 38 pages!!! Crazy stuff. Will have to head back after work so see how it ends!!

InkedDoll, you are brave to start this up after seeing that one!

Oh dear!

Looks like i've fallen victim to 'overdone trends' as i am having a strapless gown, tall table decorations (no dripping crystals though) and a photo booth..... althought the converse are for me as i can't wear heels all day, H2B wouldn't be seen dead in converse they're 'too trendy' for him lol!

I did try on 2 gowns with straps, but i have really wde shoulders and ended up looking really butch and i'm sure that would look soooooo flattering in our photos!

oh hang on a mo...... that's right, i dont care if they approve of my choice lol! ?

This!

It amuses me that there's tons of things that when I first started planning my wedding I was thinking 'wow I've never seen that before I'd love that at my wedding' now 18months in to planning there's stuff we''re having that I'm so bored of seeing in pics photos and magazines etc. And then I have to remember it that's just because everything I've been doing is wedding related!

Those saying there's hardly any non strapless dresses - there's a ton of them around at the moment, loads of high necked and high backed dresses. I think I even tried on at least three tea length dresses that weren't strapless - if you haven't found one, keep looking.

Im having a few things off the list, but thats because they suit us not because its 'in at the minute' we are having our reception in a marquee so its going to be very outdoorsy (if thats even a word)

i do however think alot of the things are to what is in fashion at the minute. When i was young everyone had balloon centerpieces and big puffy dresses and crazy hair, now fashion has moved on to things like the vintage theme and sweet carts, im sure balloons and puffy dresses will make a come back though, all fashion loops around eventually!

Ok, so i just finished reading 'the other' post.....

Christ on a bike, how can so many people get their knickers in such a knot over a light-hearted post?!

I specifically like the ones saying 'i come on hitched for positive suggestions', i thought it was a forum/website where anything and everything could be discussed and friends made over jokes and support networks not a Citizens Advice Bureau for those who can't afford a wedding planner so expect everything to be 'constructive'.

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Exactly this!

Definitely true!

And you're right about the dresses - I came across so many in the bridal shop with straps, I think there was more with than without actually.

I loved my dress but wanted straps and the lady assured me you can put any sleeves onto any dress so i'd be fine then when I seen it with the sleeves on they looked shite and cheap made ?

But yes - anyone who hasn't found one keep looking there's plenty out there!

Ha, I'd never seen that one, I didn't join til this Jan! But thanks for the link whoever posted it (Mini I think). That escalated quickly, huh?

I think maybe some of the people posting in that thread hadn't really been on forums before or spent much time on twitter or instagram etc. I come from over 10yrs of being on forums - hell, on the first one I was ever on I was chased around threads by one guy and called fat, ugly and STD-ridden at every opportunity. You learn to develop a thick skin very quickly. It's nice to have a place to discuss wedding planning where you know everyone else is interested (rather than boring your colleagues etc), and yes a lot of the time this is a supportive environment, but if you're expecting everyone to agree with all your choices then you're being foolish, frankly. I'm pleased when people like my ideas or the things I've bought for my wedding, but if they don't, why would I care that much? It doesn't make any sense.

Not that thread, but the one after it I had a right giggle because pretty much everything hated by everyone else was what I was having for my wedding - red, balloons, children etc...

It would be so easy to get offended and be all, well, if you don't like me and my wedding you can all sod off but at the end of the day - it's my wedding and I'll have it how I want it - red, balloons, children and all!!

However, I also recognise that I won't like everything about your weddings but I wouldn't dream of telling you so deliberately nor would I take a thread like that seriously - I think they really just show how individual we all are, how unique and different human beings are and how many variations of a theme there can be. I've chosen a wedding that suits me and my personality and that of my OH of course, but you and your OH are different to us - so I would expect you to like and want different things.

I don't think I'll ever understand people who get the hump and take things personally when the whole point of this site to me is to gain support when needed from other brides - to not bore my family and friends stupid by every little decision that I agonise over and to moan about my family and friends when they aren't listening to every little decision that I agonise over ?

Its fun to find out what you lot think is a beautiful wedding and I know that while you lot won't necessarily like my choices, you'll all still tell me I look beautiful on my day and that you're pleased for me - THAT is the point of the site and THAT is what matters ?

Well said BJ. The fluff around the weddings (colours, sweet tables, dress styles) will be different for everyone and we won't all agree on the choices. What we do all share in common is the need for some reassurance that everyone is going through similar issues which is a huge support.

I know, I started reading it just before 11pm last night, that was a mistake! When I realised it was 38 pages I had to give up and come back this morning

Hahaha!! This list is funny and quite sad at the same time really. It's your wedding, who cares! Have it how you would like it!.... Can't believe the strapless dress thing...

We got married in 2007 and had individual desserts. We loved them, they tasted amazing, looked fab and guests loved them. Oh yes, I also had a strapless dress and named tables.

Pahahahahaha! I made it to page 12 before bedtime overcame me. I've got to page 19 so far this morning. Am dipping in and out when I get a chance.

Agree that forums are not the place for people who take everything too personally.

Now going back to the original list, I also dislike chair covers (hate would be too strong a word), but am having them as the chairs in our venue are awful. OH wants the sashes on them too. I'm wondering whether I can talk him out of it.... but.... would chair covers look odd WITHOUT the sashes do you think?????

Also - those mirrored plates under the centrepieces. Several people seem to hate those, which was a surprise to me. I'm intrigued. Anyone got a reason for that? Our venue add them under the candelabras, and it never occurred to me to either 'choose' to have them, or 'choose' not to. Never gave it a second thought, and can't fathom what might or might not be offensive or cliche about them?????????

I also have other items on the list, but don't give a cr** about anyone's opinions on those, as they are MINE MINE MINE and I love them, LOL. Genuinely want some help on those two items though, if people could help?

Oh oh oh ohhhhhhhhh..... Looking back at InkedDoll's original list, I have realised that I might....just might....actually have something 'original' and non-cliche/overused at our wedding.

(Caveat: by 'original' I mean 'seen at 49% or less of all other weddings in the world')

It never occurred to us to name our tables after something to do with us. We came up with names based on the guests that would be sitting at those tables. Having seen the table-naming-thing on the list above, I've realised that at every single wedding I've ever been to, the tables have been named as something quite egocentric to the bride/groom, or something a bit generic (like plain table numbers). I've fallen into an accidental minority, yeaaa for me!

I've read that thread again today- hilarious isn't it. Such a co incidence that all those people who hadn't posted for months came along all at once to say nasty things about the thread....

O.M.G how is it 2:15pm? Oh I know how - I spent most of the day reading that other thread. What is wrong with people? Nothing nice to say, don't say it. I can't believe how people were offended by a funny lighthearted thread! Thanks for sharing Mini xx

Personally I don't like mirrors underneath centrepieces, but I have no logical reason of like/not liking them.

I think chair covers work with and without sashes...I always wanted chair covers *sigh* I blame American movies, but our venue had such lovely chairs that it would have been sinful to cover them up.

xx

Thanks for your help sweetcheeks ?

Lol, do you have an illogical reason for disliking the mirrors? I'd settle for any reason, logical or not! I'm happy to sack them off as I haven't paid for them (they're just included). I'm just intrigued as to why people have included them on the dislike list when I hadn't even recognised their existence previously!

Do they just fall into that table crystal category where you just think it's a bit unnecessary, overdone, and a bit blingy?

I honestly can't think of any reason!! I guess they are just not to my taste!! Perhaps it is the blingy-ness of them - our wedding was beachy/low key. I suppose they're just a bit unnecessary - but saying that - would have those over the massive tall 5 ft vases things that some people have - I can't bear not being able to see all the guests on the table - makes it difficult to pass the wine/chat!!

What do your candelabras look like? Or, tell you another idea - if your groom is being wishy washy with decisions then delegate this over to him so he feels like he's doing something lol x

Thanks - that's actually a really good idea. His choice, lol.

The candelabras also just came with the venue - although we did pay a supplement for those. We figured you could see through the gaps to check if some git is hogging the wine on the other side. ie. we thought the candelabras might be less invasive than flowers, as they are quite delicate rather than chunky things. The room just couldn't cope with massive centrepieces, even if we wanted them.... which we didn't. We're not decorating the wedding breakfast room at all. It's a nice pretty room, and the chair covers are part of the package (I guess they know their chairs are awful). Paying extra for the candelabra hire was all we thought was necessary for the room. Flowers just seemed a bit of an effort, lol.

I love a candelabra, just had another google - definitely think they work well with/without mirrors! Do they have the little strings of pearls? Will you light the candles, oh questions questions! Sounds like you've got everything under control - where are you getting married? I want details now please

p.s if I'm truthfully honest then on the day you won't even notice whether or not you have mirrors - I know it's a big decision now but you'll be so excited to walk into your wedding breakfast as Mr and Mrs you'll forget to even look. Then there is food, and speeches and you get to mingle with your guests...mirrors won't even come into the equation. xx

My theme is Old Hollywood Glamour so I'm having lots of unnecessary bling. EVERYONE SEND ME YOUR UNWANTED BLING! ?

if you have candelabras, i think mirrors would be best, protects the table (probably why they have them!) also reflects the light so there more light in the room.

i can see why people would but 'meh' about them because they're used a lot but in most cases they're actually used a lot because they're somewhat functional

Yeah funny how theres lots of people that only seem to come out of the woodwork for threads like that

Claire Dawn, I'm in the dislike round mirrors camp, I can see they're practical but don't like the way they look, I think they detract from the centrepiece and feel a bit formal and for some reason they seem a bit old fashioned to me. Also not keen on chair covers (though we are having them) i don't mind the sashes but think bold coloured satin sashes can sometimes look a bit much as its a lot of block colour.

Oooooh, that's a good point - maybe the mirrors are there to protect the tablecloths? Thanks chickie!

Yes, the candles will be lit in the candelabras, and the lights dimmed down a bit.

Actually there *were* crystals dripping off the candelabras, but we already politely refused them. The venue owners were excitedly telling us about how they would drape their crystals over them whilst laying the tables, and both me and the OH said simultaneously that they shouldn't bother, LOL. (we followed that up as one of the written clarifications in the final planning notes).

If only I could send them your way, Ms Hollywood Glamour! They'd be totally appropriate for your theme, eh? (and sadly totally out of place for mine!).

If I went to a glamour-themed wedding WITHOUT crystals everywhere, I'd be outraged, OUTRAGED I tell you!

Lastly, I had no idea chair covers came in different types..... I'll ermmmm, have to check that one out. I have no clue which type we are having! I'm now picturing our chairs looking like they're dressed in spandex cycling shorts now though. We were also thinking either black or white sashes only, IF we had them. So maybe black would be too much anyway, being a block colour????? I don't think they are satin, I think that see-through material (organza?), as I did see a photo of them at some point, I swear. Holy cr**, I'm going to have to go back to the venue AGAIN to check out this chair nonsense, aren't I? I'm glad there's a bar there. I'll get a beer whilst I'm there...

Might not have strapless as I dont like strapless usually anyway but i certainly wont be opting out for suitability purposes

I agree, it has driven me nuts. I've spent at least the last hour looking at confetti options. Again.

Don't add flowers with your candelabra - this is truly an either/or situation. They are separate centrepieces, never to be seen together. Plus, bearing in mind that mirrors are on the 'overdone' list, I wouldn't add them. I am actually going to check whether our venue adds them due to them protecting the tablecloth, as someone suggested above. After I've had a second beer....