Mother in Law drama

You do what you would do to any spoiled toddler who is throwing a 'look at me' temper tantrum. You ignore it.

Depending on how white MILs dress is, your guests are either not going to notice or think MIL is being tactless/ignorant/rude. Either way, MILs behaviour is going to reflect badly on her, not on you or your OH.

Judging by what you have posted in the past, I suspect MIL is doing this deliberately to upset and annoy you. So the best response is to completely ignore it. She's far more likely to push ahead with wearing this dress if she thinks it will really upset you. If she raises it again, just say something like 'we've already told you we would prefer you not to wear that colour, but it's your choice whether you respect our wishes or not'. That way, you are emphasising that this is not something you agree with, but that you are also not going to get involved in any drama over it. Remember that phrase you see on internet forums when someone is trying to stir things up - 'don't feed the troll'? Just think of MIL as the troll and stop feeding her with the attention she wants!

How many times has this been posted on the forum! I don’t understand how anyone, even a normal guest let alone someone in the Bridal party, thinks it’s ok to wear shades of white or silver. Lots of brides have unfortunately had to broach this subject.
Next step is to get FH to talk to her and try and do it face to face and not by text. He needs to explain that it isn’t the done thing.
I don’t think the shops help as when I went shopping with my mum for her MOB outfit there was a lot of silver and cream out there! Good luck

Agree with RomanticGreenStationary. If it happens on the day you'll just have to ignore it- bear in mind others will think she's being weird by doing that, so it's her loss. In the meantime I'd ignore her as much as possible. Not sure what she's playing at, but hey, some people are funny 🤦

Thus woman sounds like a little child spitting her dummy out It is about you its your wedding and h2bs as for the dress who would do this i could understand if you had a different coloured dress but your not i think h2b needs to have a chat and put his foot down x💗

Why are so many MILs like this?! If she was to wear white or any shade of off white at your wedding does she not realise she will look really spiteful and attention seeking?! Leave it to your H2B to deal with her and have a word. To be honest this is the type of thing I am expecting to happen with my MIL closer to my wedding 😂

View quoted message I definitely agree with all comments. Like stated here, prefer you not to wear that colour but it's your choice. You're not really giving her any "fuel to light her fire"?
I will be honest, I haven't had this problem, my mil actually asked if it was okay to wear a shade similar to bridal party, which is blush pink.
I agree that shops don't help as there's alot in cream, silvers. However, after my mil and my mum looked saw just cream and whites etc they shopped elsewhere.I have attended one wedding were the brides mil was in all black and looked miserable on every photo.But back to the drama, I'd suggest getting your H2b to have a sit down chat. I'm shocked that there's so posts about mil being like this tbh. From the start I've always had "it's your day" we get married mid July.It is you n ur h2bs day, it rushes over so fast, I really hope things get sorted as you really don't need this, 😊 I do have a slight curiosity though, is he the only son? Or only child? Could she be thinking she's "loosing " rather than "gaining" ? It's still no excuse, just a thought.Best wishes and all the love from us here in Durham xxx

View quoted message MIL dressed in black ? Maybe she was mourning “losing” her son! People can be very odd sometimes 😏

View quoted message Definitely looked that way. Black accessories too. Fascinator, the bag the shoes. It was a may wedding too, so everyone else were in pinks and lemons, mint greens. Was very erm.....yeah very odd 🤔 lol xx

I agree, isn’t not really ideal and wearing white/cream/ivory/etc to a wedding is a bit… tactless? I’m having a similar-ish dilemma with my mother as I’m really not keen on the style of dress she’s thinking of wearing, but I just keep asking myself “what do I win, and what do I lose” if I were to bring up the conversation.
The decision I’ve made is that it will probably annoy me a bit but only to the point I roll my eyes and crack on with the rest of the day, so if she’s happy with her outfit and won’t add stress to the situation because of it, I “win” more than I would if she’s in an outfit I think she should wear but that she hates - because she will make it known it’s not what she wanted to wear.
If you’ve graciously asked you MIL not to wear those colours and she then still does, you hold the morale high-ground and should anyone judge, it’ll be her they judge rather than you.