Hi, I'm the groom and this is my first ever forum post of any kind BUT I need some advice!
My Fiancée saved up for a long time to buy a wedding dress from a rather special designer in ivory.
Upon booking our venue etc my mother has brought a dress from the same designer in Ivory.
The wedding dress (I understand, I've not seen) is rather classical and understated with no sparkle etc. My mothers outfit is a similar colour cream dress (knee length) and jacket with a fair bit of sparkle.
We had indicated that the bridesmaids were wearing green and the mother of the bride wearing blue.
My Fiancée feels this is really rude. While she didn't specifically say not to buy a cream dress, she thought this was common sense! And to chose the same designer takes something special away from her hard saved for dress.
My mother truly loves my fiancée and I know she wouldn't have done this maliciously but I don't know what she was thinking! I'm guessing she thought it would be nice to match her/the venue and be in the same designer?
Having raised this with both my sister (maid of honour) and Dad, they think it is ridiculous and asked that I don't say anything as she is so excited about her dress (which is being altered and can't be returned). This isn't the point but on hearing this, my fiancée has said to 'just let her wear what she wants'.
I feel I am in that impossible situation now where if I say for her to change the dress, I upset both my mother and my fiancee as she thinks it will make her out to be bridezilla BUT if I do nothing, I can't help but feel this will come back to me in future arguments, that my mother and her will not get along so well as a result and the wedding day pictures will be a constant reminder of the issue that I did not resolve.
My inclination is to just get it out in the open and tell them to get another outfit BUT I just want that confirmation that we aren't being unreasonable or irrational about the situation. Are we?
Thanks in advance!!!
