"Oh God, I think they've got me a fat stripper"

I haven't really had too much experience of strippers, male or female. A few years ago, the girlfriend of one of our friends arranged a secret party at their house and asked me and OH to book him a stripper (to come to their house, it seemed normal then but now I think about it, it seems odd!) she was an hour late, danced to two songs, took her top off then scratched the living daylights out of the birthday boy. He was in serious agony, she just scratched all over his chest and back for no reason, weirdo! My sister had a stripper for her 18th which some friends organised without her knowing, he took it too far and put her hand down his thong, when those booking it had requested for him to be 'tame' as she was only a baby!

So from my limited experience, I wouldn't be too bothered if OH had a stripper or went to a strip club (as long as they didn't hurt him!) but he is incredibly shy so I doubt he would enjoy it all that much anyway. I wouldn't really want one myself but I'm pretty sure I will end up with something along those lines. If I do, I will laugh along and enjoy it as much as possible. As has been said, stag/hens are something you only get the opportunity to do once.

In a few gay clubs I've seen boy strippers which I found gross (mostly because they were greasy, overly muscly and a bit creepy...and obviously I'm not into men)

I saw a GORGEOUS female stripper in New York in a gay club (they had girls and boys) but I don't think women react in quite the same way to visual stimulus from a stranger. Though I thought she was really beautiful I wasn't turned on...it's more of a giggle thing, really. I bullied W2B into putting some dollar bills into her thong but she's such a prude and blushes at the thought of that sort of thing (which is why I would have LOVED to see her on her hen)

My hen was a meal at a really posh restaurant followed by champagne cocktails and giggles at my friends house, though I did have a couple of celebratory nights out there were no strippers. Admittedly I'd have loved to have one; not because I find it sexy but it inevitably leads to lots of giggles. My MOH is a bit shy and would never have the guts to book one; W2B on the other hand was dreading the idea (when she realised they'd planned something she tried to back out and say she was ill) and got the wild hen night!

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I was far more worried about her hurting herself or getting lost than cheating on me. And she has no reason to worry; I'd never do anything (and anyway, her body is better than any stripper I've ever seen in RL or on TV/films...I'd be effing MENTAL to play away!)

I wouldn't really be fussed if W2B went to strip clubs. If she wants to see naked women they are only a click of a mouse or TV remote away, so if I were jealous about that I'd have to ban her from going on holiday or any sort of media. If she wanted to cheat she probably would whether or not she went into a strip club; I suspect most strippers are so sick of pervy men even if someone's OH wanted to cheat they might have a harder job than in a normal club!

sorry, had to say something to that, they are not as 'soft' as you may think. mt best friend (when single) went in a strip club with work friends, she has a huge phobia of any boyfriend going to one and wanted to see what went on. yes on stage it may be soft however the private dances vary stripper to stripper, and she went in for the private dance. to cut a long story short the woman got naked and bent over in her face so she had a close up view of EVERYTHING. that aint soft!!

my OH has been to amsterdam so i know no strip club around these parts can compare to what he witnessed. all ive said is i dont mind you going in one but i would feel very uncomfortable with him getting a private dance and i know he will respect that.

i totally get why people dont like them and dont want OH going in. my brother in law was a bouncer in one and the women are very clever and persuasive!!

... particularly when it's all about money, I'm sure.

You're full of the sweeping generalisations today AJ...

Do you believe this or are you just trying to be contraversial?

I don't like the thought of strippers due to the thought of someone else touching my OH, like somone else has said.

Here's a pic of my OH's friends joint stag posted on facebook (the most decent one i could find) For the record she gave me permission to repost this as she isn't bothered by it at all. I on the other hand would be mortified to know another woman was topless on top of my H2B luckily both me and my OH have the same view and neither of us will be having strippers.

Is it controversial to suggest that women in strip clubs will try to persuade a customer to offload as much of his money as possible? This is, after all, the point of a stripper's job...