Older bride, non church venue, to veil or not to veil?

Im not having a church and have decided not to have a veil. It is entirely your choice though. If you want a veil have one If you're worried about the venue not being a church etc why not go for a shorter veil? What is your dress like? I would be thinking of whether your dress would suit a veil more than anything else xxx

To be honest, I think a full on veil would be a bit too much. A birdcage one could look lovely, depending on whether it would suit your dress - do you have a picture? Otherwise I think fresh flowers always look good.

OP I am going to be 40 on my wedding day too. Like you this is my second time.

I say if you want a veil why on earth shouldn't you wear one! I am having a civil ceremony too and I am wearing ivory and I am going to wear a veil too! Its the only day of our lives we get to wear a dress like that and also a veil so go for it!

With a marriage already behind me and two children and one step-son, I think its highly unlikely anyone believes me to be a virgin! I'm not wearing white because I think that would be pushing it but definitely wear a veil if you want one!

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What Trickers said!

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The only reservation I would have is that I don't think a long veil would go with your outfit... a birdcage veil would though :-)

She hasnt said what she is wearing...?

I think she ought to wear a veil... Im going to be 44 when we get married next year and I am absolutely wearing a veil, this is my 2nd time round too and my first wedding "outfit" was pretty shocking so this time I am going out all guns ablazing... big dress, veil etc... If it makes you happy and feel good then do it and sod the age thing!!

I'll be 38, getting married in a hotel and am wearing a veil. Go for it!

I was a 2nd time Bride at 41 & wore a veil. If you feel comfortable then go for it, I loved mine seen here with my dad:

OH, I see- I mis-read it then...

In that case, age doesn't matter, it would just have to work with whatever your wearing ?

Herer here wear what you want! I don't think you have to be young to wear a veil at all ( a mini skirt maybe unless you're Shirley from Eastenders! lol) I photographed lots of older brides, some have worn veils...long & short and some haven't doesn't make any difference x

Wear the veil if you want to. You will look beautiful because you are wearing what you wanted and marrying the man of your dreams. Sod anyone else!!

A non-church wedding is no less of a wedding, and you are no less deserving of your 'Princess day' because of your age, venue or anything else under the sun!

PS I am marrying in a reg office and will be wearing a veil.

Another plus for us oldies wearing veils... it'll hide the wrinkles?! ?

Me too KV, me too... a full-length one to boot ?

Well this is my dress. Obviously my hair will be a tamed on the day! I don't think a birdcage would work though.

WSS. Maybe try one on with matching lace? I'd try on a few and see which ones you like!

PS: I would never have guessed you were 40! So even less reason to worry ?

Thankyou Trickers. After reading the comments I am definitly feeling more inclined to opt for a veil. The one i have my eye on is just a plain pencil edge cathedral length - nothing like going all out! ?. I thought a plain one would be best as there is plenty of lace detail on the train already.

You look beautiful, your dress is lovely and a veil would look great ?

Also, I agree- not birdcage, and sorry FMJ NOT lace- the dress is very lacy, anymore lace would be overkill IMO. I am not sure which length- I think ANY length would look good with this dress- try some different ones on and see which you like.

You look stunning! I also misread your first post and thought you were wearing a skirt suit for the wedding but that dress you are wearing can definitely carry off a veil. A full length one too! Go for it. Your guy is a lucky man ?

I am also an older bride - will be 48 when I tie the knot! I'm wearing a full length dress with a train no veil but will be wearing a side tiara. Older brides rock!!

You are GORGEOUS! Wear a veil...in fact, wear a bin liner, you are going to look amazing in anything let's be honest

No need to be sorry... I am rubbish at picturing what things will look like LOL!

You look fantastic, a veil would complete your look

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You do look great and I love your dress. I would go for a veil if it's what you want, it would look lovely. I will be a 40 year ol 2nd timer too but am going without one. My dad and sister said to me "you are not going to wear a singing dancing white dress with a veil this time are you?" ? which made me conscious but I have made the decision myself it isn't what I want this time, but I am having a white dress, s*d them!!

Definately yes - a veil would look good with that dress.

Now you have pointed out the difference, I agree, cut edge would look better. Don't suppose you could recommend anywhere that is good quality but not too expensive?

Thank you for all the feedback everyone. The hunt is on for a long (I think it's called cathedral length), ivory, plain, cut edge veil! ?

I would go to UK Wedding Veils- I got mine from there. You build your own however you want it. They are fast and the quality was great :-)

http://www.ukweddingveils.co.uk/

Can't really offer any advice as I'm also in the "to veil or not to veil" camp, but just wanted to say that I love your dress and there is no way you look 40!

Wow you look blummin 30 anyway ! I will be 43 when I get married 2nd time around. I worried about a veil but everyone said have it. I have decided against though ( I think ) but am thinking maybe a birdcage veil. But that is only a choice made by how it looks on me personally ! I think you will look lovely in a veil and your dress is fab. Go for it !

If you think you will look back on your wedding day and wish you had worn a veil def do it. Age or where you are getting married has nothing to do with it. The type of veil depends on the style of your dress. I will be 51 on the day and was going to wear a shoulder length veil pinned to the back of my head. My sis siad she was really hot wearing hers and the fact that I get flushed when I am nervous put me off. I am not intending on doing this again so I am having everything I want even if sometimes I have to modify it to be within budget. I do not want to look back and think 'if only' x

Hi Must agree a birdcage would not go with this dress. I was 36 whan I got married and I was worried about the age issue. Yes your right you don't want to look mutton dressed as lamb.

I think an ideal veil would be the type that come from the nape of your neck and some flowers or side tiara in your hair.

When your not in your 20's I do think you need to be a bit more careful with your choice or dress/veil/headpiece.

Enjoy your planning. Wish it was me again!!!

Here is my wedding dress..... I loved it and my wedding day...

I'm not having a church wedding, I'm having a garden wedding in the gardens of our venue. I have decided not to have a veil as it felt and looked wrong on me. So instead I have invested in some hair extensions. I already have long hair but my extensions give me much fuller hair and I am having a flower comb with some sparkly crystals put into my hair.