Parents!!!

I would suggest your H2B has a pre emptive conversation with his side to explain that your family wont be there and that he would ask them not to bring it up on the day to avoid any hurt or upset for you as it is difficult enough for you. he doesn't need to explain the ins and outs of it just that they wont be there, they don't need to know why and should accept that and support you both on the day

To be honest, I think you are better off without 'family' like this. Celebrate with your friends instead - as the old saying goes, 'friends are the family you pick for yourself' and with family like yours, it sounds high time you picked a new one.

As for what people will think, if you've invited the right people to your wedding - people who love and care for you - their only thoughts will be for you. If you are worried about questions from your OHs family, I would suggest he tell them beforehand and ask them not to discuss it with you. Most people will have the sensitivity to realise that this must be a painful situation for you, and will want to do all they can not to make it worse.

Sending lots of love and sympathy.

That's so hard. If people do make insensitive comments to you on the day, all you can do is just acknowledge you are sad your family couldn't be present and move on. If they push for a reason, just respond with something vague like 'personal reasons' or 'private reasons'.

It can be really tough accepting that our family are not the family we hoped for. If you continue to struggle with this, it might be worth seeking out some counselling to work through your feelings. And be gentle with yourself. A lot of people make assumptions about families, especially mother/daughter relationships and weddings can bring a lot of these assumptions to the fore. In time, you learn to deal with the difference between other peoples' romanticised views of parents and your own reality, but the contrast can still be jarring. Struggling to deal with this is not a sign of weakness xxx

So sorry to hear this. That is just downright nasty and I tend to agree with those who have said you just dont need family like this and that your wedding is a celebration of your love to share with those who care about you. Your fiances family will become your family too on your marriage and if they are lovely people stick with them. There is a lit in the old saying about being able to choose friends but not family. Your parents attitude is unforgivable in my view!

That's lovely to hear, your love, your wedding, your life. Anybody difficult can just keep quiet and keep away