I'm having a marquee ceremony in my parent's national trust garden. Deposits for the catering and marquee have been paid for and my parents have kindly agreed to pay for everything for the day ceremony.
They have just told me that I cannot invite three of my closest friends. They say it is because they don't like how they treat me but I know it will be because they don't want their friends to see these particular friends.
(From a working class background, but also who like to drink.
I know they like to drink but they behave well and have been my friends for 20 years.)
I have said that I can't uninvite them (invited verbally as save the dates are due to go out soon). If I don't invite them then I can't then invite any of my friends from this tight knit community and then we can't invite my fiancé's friends either. As it is a small community not inviting these guests will not only end a 20 year friendship but create a lot of drama with my other friends.
I have said that I don't want them to pay for the wedding if there are conditions. But deposits have been paid and we can't afford to lose £15,000 to cover the deposit they have paid.
They have asked if the friends could just come be invited to evening do but I think that will be more hurtful to close friends I could have a very small day ceremony for our small families and have friends to evening do....but I want my friends to be there for the day and some friends would be coming from 250+ miles away
I really don't know what to do and would appreciate if anybody has any advice? I have trued to reason with them, as has my fiance and brother but they don't seem willing to compromise.
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