pregnancy paranoia!!!

Why would you be worried if you are also taking the pill?

It really depends at what point in your cycle you were when this happened. Chances are you'll be fine. I'm not on the pill, have just over 3 months to go, and i've had a couple of accidents in the past year and i've been fine! Don't stress about it! What's for you won't go past you! and even if you were, would it really be the worse thing in the world to the point you'd have t cancel your wedding? Brides get married while pregnant all the time!

I am almost certain you will be ok, but I'm also quite paranoid about this situation (although I'm just on the pill not other methods) Is there still time to get emergency contraception just in case?

You'd have to be very unlucky to get preggers from that I'd say, and if you did I'd say its a sign lol...stop panicking.

RKB, i think its the fact that her wedding is almost 9 months to the day she's panicking at rather than just at being pregnant. It would be a danger of giving birth during wedding situation - I faced this exact fear myself not that long ago LOL (and if you want the honest truth I just told him to forget coming near me that week as I'd messed up my pills)

If you are taking the pill properly then it is almost 100% effective. You are fine. DW.

I had the same thing during my WP, but I was more worried about not being able to fit into my dress!

If you're using the pill you should be fine. It's all I use and touch wood we've been fine. I know no contraception method is 100% fullproof but the pill is just about as good as it gets so long as you take it properly!

Culturally and religiously, a lot of people would find a pregnant bride shameful. I know that very few brides are pure and virginal on their wedding night these days, but that doesn't mean that a pregnant bride is acceptable to everyone, even if it's no problem to many.

? Are you serious?

Yes, I'm serious. Remember that you're supposed to abstain from sex until you're married, according to traditional teaching in many religions, therefore no sex = no pregnancy.

You'll also often find a similar opinion from older generations.

So you think it's shameful?

Me too lol was 6 months gone

Relax - I am thinking you are only panicing cos its the magical 9 months to go. if you taking the pill correctly you should be fine.

I have not, and choose not, to put forward an opinion on the issue. I was merely replying stating that not everyone thinks it's peachy fine, that's all, even if modern society thinks it's not a problem.

In the olden days maybe AJ, but in this modern world that we live in, i don't think anyone looks twice at a pregnant bride. I've also heard, and of course, i could be wrong, but i thought that in some religions that you only marry once, and it's frowned on to get divorced.

*Takes a Bow* ?

To be fair my main concern isn't if I'll be pregnant so much as will my BMs be?!

One of them is actively trying (as we spk prob knowing her LOL)

But at the end of the day I am not going to fire her from the role although the points AJ has made did cross my mind, I worried that it may not be tasteful to some of my guests that the BM is pregnant but at the end of the day she's my best friend and I'll let her off as the child will be my future honorary neice or nephew.

I also know another girl who did get pregnant while planning her wedding and she promptly postponed the wedding, not out of shame but because she wnated to be able to knock back several vodka and cokes and enjoy her day!!!

Damn thats me shamed TWICE then!

AJ, did you come here in a delorean from the 30's/40's?

AJ what's your opinion on brides who already have children? Actually, that's pretty obvious...

Trickers - stop it now I cant bear the shame ... preg when bride, then divorced and getting married to someone else with two children from previous marriage. !?

You're going straight to hell Tracie.

I'm sure AJ will now back himself up and tell us that him and his OH have stayed celibate until their wedding day otherwise he is going to completely contradict himself...

But AJ has already been married once so I doubt he is pure and virginal.

Exactly..i have no problem with people being devout and sticking to the belief system of whatever religion but it is the picking and choosing of different parts and the feeling that they are looking down on you for whichever parts they have decided they have done correctly annoys the hell out of me.

For the record this is my first marriage and all three of my children were conceived in love no matter if i was legally married or not. I find no shame in my choices.

To the OP,as the others have said if you have taken the pill correctly you should be totally fine.

Ah but AJ is a man and therefore exempt from the rule about being a virgin on your wedding day. Dontcha know.

I despair. I really do. AJ do you ever wonder why people don't like you?

I would have felt nervous walking down the aisle if I was pregnant - I wouldn't have been able to have drunk the amount of alcohol I did to get me down there.

A quick google finds a page talking about it from an Islamic point of view. http://www.therevival.co.uk/article/single-muslim-and-pregnant

That's one modern view, so your claim that "nobody looks twice" is probably not entirely accurate.

This is the main reason (apart from my total lack of maternal instincts) that I would NEVER want to be preggo on my wedding day.

Why? I've not shared my opinion, and still choose not to. I'm merely reporting facts as others see them, all of which could easily be verified with a bit of googling.

But religion is a whole different matter

Woah, i think some of you should re-read AJs post.

The OP posted that she would have to cancel her wedding if she got pregnant just now, then others remarked that they see no reason why.

I think you will find AJ was just pointing out there are valid reasons why some people would cancel a wedding if they found out they were pregnant, he also then pointed out this was not necessarily his own opinion, simply AN opinion.

I am just not sure why you felt it necessary to say what you did in the first place - it wasn't what the OP asked - seems to me that you just get a kick out of getting a reaction ...

The OP said that if she was pregnant she might have to cancel the wedding. Someone said there was no need to. I simply replied that isn't always the case. I see no controversy just for sharing an opinion that isn't necessarily held by the majority.