Thank you for reading this.
To cut a long story short my hen do was on Saturday night. Nothing over the top just my close friends going for a meal and a dance. I was back home in my bed by about 12:30pm. Great night. One of my friends, - lets call her Fiona - has always been known as a ‘right laugh’, ‘a bit outrageous’, etc. but I have never been out with her apart from in a group of mums for play dates, soft play, etc. with our children. I know her through these other mums who I made friends with first. We don’t really meet up on our own (Fiona & I) only as part of a group but all the same I thought it was appropriate to invite all 4 ladies to the hen do and wedding. We are all in our 40s. I am an older bride.Fiona is a little tipsy when she arrives at the hen do. She immediately starts buying drinks for people even though they are quite happy to buy their own. In summaryver the course of the evening, Fiona:1) whipped her boobs out at the table (fully exposed)2) grabbed my female friend and snogged her (still trying to unpick what happened here)3) her husband arrived and they were going around the bar and propositioning other couples to threesomes (including myself)4) Fiona went up to another customer at the bar (a young man of about 20) and forced his head into her boobs in front of his girlfriend.5) called my sister an effing tramp when my sister - who was organiser - attempted to politely ask her to stop interfering in the drink orders for the table as the drinks were just in abundance and no one wanted them (this one is upsetting me the most).6) Shouted aggressively in mine and another friend’s face to “eff off” (used full words) when we tried to cajole her into a cab.
This is more but I just wanted to give you a flavour of the evening. I have spoken to her this morning. She told me she remembers nothing and is so sorry. There have always been rumours about Fiona around the school that she likes a drink. She very rarely holds down friendships as they normally end in some sort of argument. I have also been informed by a mum that Fiona has recently had some sort of ‘sexual interaction’ with this lady’s 23 year old son who is incredibly shy, autistic, and never had a girlfriend. Fiona has known the boy since he was about 10.Readers, is this a mistake on Fiona’s part? None of us are perfect and I should just let it go? Am I going to have to monitor her and her husband to make sure they are not drinking at my wedding?My mum and dad, aunt and uncle and family friend (all in their 70s) are going to be there.How will my other guests who witnessed her behaviour feel about seeing her again at the wedding?I just feel like she crossed a line. Am i being a bit too self-righteous and should just accept her apology? I actually feel like I don’t want her at my wedding. Hubby to be is not happy at all but is supporting me in making the right decision. Any opinions appreciated. Wedding is in a month’s time. Thank you for reading xxx