So i need some advice on my bridal party. I know it's common etiquette to ask your sister to be a bridesmaid but me & my sister can often have quite a volatile relationship.
She has real issues with managing her anger and sometimes takes some of the things i say the wrong way and acts out massively- screaming fights, pulling hair (even at our age), pushing, storming out to "go for a walk" and not returning to the building for hours, humiliating me, destroying my personal possessions etc. This has happened after ive said things that most other people wouldnt be offended by & would recognise as banter, but she is very sensitive and takes everything so personally and seriously. But on the other hand, she has a sweet side to her and is really excited about my engagement.
Obviously it is etiquette to ask your sister to be your bridesmaid but its just my concern that if i say something that accidentally upsets her on my wedding day, if she overreacts and destroys my personal possessions or storms out and doesnt return for hours, it could cause a lot of drama on my wedding day that I could really do without. But because she is so sensitive, I also think she's be devastated if I didnt ask her to be a bridesmaid.
I want to hear people's advice on: 1. What you think I should do? 2. If she is a bridesmaid, would I need to invite her to the hen do, as I can see her seeing this as an opportunity to humiliate me in front of my friends?
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