single sex / mixed school - pressure to have a boyfriend

I went to an all girls school, run by nuns. Boys were EVIL and forbidden. I lost my virginity very early and lot's of boyfriends. I was a teenage slut. The girls in my year would gather round at break time to listen to my tales of "boyfriends with cars" fun over the weekends.

My step daughter goes to a mixed school and has lots of boy friends but not boyfriends. They are just mates.

I think the the whole lusting after what you aren't allowed has a lot to do with it.

I agree with you there KB3. Mr Caterpillar went to a mixed school and didn't have a girlfriend whilst he was at school, because he says the girls were just there all the time so didn't seem that interesting or desirable, they were just friends!

I was at an all girls grammar. I don't think there was a pressure to have a boyfriend - but I did notice that when I met boys, I was always assessing them as potential boyfriend material before thinking of them as being friends.

I went to an all girls school, and didn't really notice any pressure to meet boys/have boy friends. I was the first in my group of friends to have a long term boyfriend, and that wasn't until I was about 15.

I do remember noticing girls bragging about having sex when we were in the 3rd year, but not many of them.

I went to an all girls school but I had loads of contact with boys outside of school - Orchestra, swimming club, Crusaders (like Sunday School) and then our school paired up with the only all boys school for school plays and musicals. I didn't really have a proper "boyfriend" until I went to sixth form college but I certainly had crushes on boys and fancied them before then but never really felt any pressure to have a boyfriend.

I suppose pressure is maybe the wrong word in a way - I guess in a way it's like Orly Bird said, the thinking of all boys as potential boyfriends rather than as friends.

CBH, I didn't do any activities outside school where I met boys, apart from meeting my brother's friends who were 3 years younger - maybe that's why boys seemed so exciting and different!

I went to a mixed school, had loads of boy friends from a young age, some of whom became boyfriends IYSWIM. It was all about the romance though - one BF I had for 9 months (aged 12) without even kissing ? - now one of my best mates (and gay ?).

Didn't have sex until 17 tho - with a boy friend, who became a boyfriend, who became my hubby.

Rather embarassing to admit that! ?

R-A - I know what you mean about the romance - I think although I felt like there was pressure to have a boyfriend, a lot of it was just for show!

I had a boyfriend at about age 14 for 6 months and we never even kissed or held hands, we just used to hang out together in town. I guess in a different scenario (maybe if we were at the same school rather than him being at the mysterious boys' school down the road) he'd have just been a boy who was a friend - as that's basically what he was.

Why would you be embarrased to admit that? I didn't have sex until I was 19, with my now-husband. i met him on my 19th birthday.

Nope, not embarassing at all, in fact in spite of all the having boyfriends for show that I am admitting to, I was older than either of you, and also with my now-husband...

I went to a mixed school, and didn't really have a 'steady' boyfriend until the final year (15 yrs old for me as I'm an August baby). But even then we only snogged (?). I didn't have sex until I started going out with my boyfriend (now H) at 19.

I didn't feel any pressure during school to have a boyfriend, or indeed to take it further.

Totally agree with KB3 I think it was, who said it's almost certainly to do with the "forbidden" aspect of it. If boys are around all the time, they just become friends.