Struggling Bride

I’m sorry you’ve been made to feel like this. There is so much pressure on brides to look immaculate, and I definitely felt that before mine. I was horribly anxious about having everyone look at me - I was worried about my teeth, my arms, my nose - things I’d never even thought about before! I had to speak to my other half because he kept talking about how excited he was for me to go blonde and get a wax: I reminded him that I already had to get hair, makeup, nails, etc., and had to think about my skincare and weight, whereas all he had to do was get a haircut and have a shave. I was also working right up to the day before the wedding, so asked him when he expected me to fit in all these beauty appointments. He completely understood and realised how unfair it was that I was under all this pressure.

I know this sounds silly, but honestly on the day I just forgot about all the things I’d worried about. I knew I looked great and wasn’t worried that people might be judging the little things. I just had an amazing day and all you see in photos is how happy I am.

You will feel wonderful on your wedding day - surround yourself with good people when you’re getting ready and you won’t worry about any of it.

I’m struggling with the same thing. I don’t think I’ve picked the right dress as the material isn’t forgiving. I’ve been really worried about it and have even contacted my alterations company who have reassured me it’ll all be fine. Hopefully we’ll both feel great on our wedding days and wonder why we worried so much. 🤞 x

Resonating with these posts. There’s a lot of pressure to be the “perfect” bride but I think what helps me is to remember that everyone who will be there on the day loves me for who I am. And realistically they won’t be expecting perfection, they will be expecting me. They already know I’m not a flawless model. I had my first dress fitting a week or so ago and that really helped, seeing it all together, the dress being the right size etc

DONT let anyone fat shame you x you are perfect the way you are I get how you feel but love you for you that's what your h2b loves I know we say we aren't happy with how we look but nobody should put you down like that I got it of my mum all the time that's too tight it shows all your bumps so glad we don't talk anymore don't feel down stay positive 💞🤗

I have these feelings sometimes to but echoing what Samantha said, everyone at the wedding already knows and loves you for who you are, you FH is marrying you based on who you are now, not some imaginary person who's going to walk down the aisle. There's so much pressure to look and be perfect on your wedding day but it will be the best day of your life anyway (hopefully!) and that will radiate from you no matter what xx

I felt totally chilled when we started planning, thinking I don't care how it all turns out lets just enjoy a day celebrating us. But the closer we get the more I'm analysing! Maybe we need to try and remember how exciting it starts off? Its just for the two of you and I would like to think anyone who is there on the day is there to add to your happiness! And I have heard loads say you will love the photos, not because of how you looked but the memories they hold!

I’m so sorry you are feeling this way. The pressure for women to look “perfect” on their wedding day, and I atronglt believe that Instagram and glamourosed celebrity weddings have a lot to answer for! I’ve had a few snidey remarks about my tattoos and how they will “look in a wedding dress”. It can be really hard not to let the comments get to you, but the best support I’ve had has been from my H2B! He was actually the one that talked me about of hiring an MUA as he wants me to look like myself on the big day; and not a “carbon copy from some Insta page” (his words not mine!😅🙈) - that comment alone was enough to remjnd me that I am ENOUGH.💖