So I'm totally stuck, my wedding is in 4 months and my Best friend of many years (& god parent to my children) sprung on me she is upset and annoyed as she hasn't been asked/ spoke to her about being/ not being my bridesmaid (i would have asked her to be my maid of honour).
I haven't asked her as I've not seen her and i feel she hasn't bothered at all! We got engaged in September to which she was there and on that night said she was really happy excited for me. Six weeks later we meet up a friends house we hadn't yet set a date, nothing wedding wise was said. Two weeks after that we had set the date at a venue Myself and other half love. We went back to tell the family and my mum and 2 sister (bridesmaids) started straight away on the hen do.
Fast forward to march i messaged to ask what her son (our godson) wanted for his birthday, to which i was responded with please don't worry a present (we still got him something anyway) and can i be honest with you... to which out comes the I'm upset, annoyed & angry about not being asked to be a bridesmaids when you was one for me. I had assorts of ideas for your hen party and your sisters have done all that! I think you have got all wrapped up in the wedding and planned everything you have done it so quick no-one even got the change to help.
I explained i hadn't asked as i hadn't seen or spoken to her since October and over the last two years they have become very distance we are always first to contact them. To which we hardly seen them as above it was October last. After some back and forth i get a message saying I'm completely done!
Ive asked to see each other face to face to sort this as i don't want to lose 12 years of friendship with a response of i can't face you at the moment i don't think you understand ho hurt i am. Since then both our godson and her birthday have been we dropped cards and presents to both and a message to say thank you.
So this is where I'm stuck other then the above we have not seen nor spoken with them sense October.... the wedding is less then 4 months away to which they are attending but i fell if i don't hear anything in the next 3 month do i message a just say please don't come to the wedding or just leave it and hope they turn up?
This has totally upset me and i just don't know what to do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!