Sweet tables?

Lol. knickers in a twist

I have never said no one is entitled to their opinion, if I didn't want others opinions I wouldn't have started a thread on it? doh

how does this make me rude or self righteous? am neither, for the record.

Nope, definitely not, especially considering i own this...

For what it's worth, I don't like sweetie tables. I don't know if we'll have one. OH loves sweets, and I know he'd probably get more out of it than the guests!

Personally, I'm not a fan of the thought that people may just stick their hands in the jars, children especially. Even when tongs and serving things are provided, not everyone will bother to use them. Not a fan of that!

Favours don't have to be tat either. YK's idea with the seeds is lovely, and in fact we thought about having forget me not seeds as ours. We're instead option to buy charity pins from charities that are important to us, and making donations on behalf of our guests. If they leave their pin behind, it's no big deal, the money went to a good cause. The kids will get rubber charity wristbands.

Love the charity pins idea, id appreciate that as a favour for sure

Amen

Wow lots of negativity on here! It's all pretty unnecessary all over a bunch of sweets! I'm thinking about having one at our Wedding (I love sweets!). If my guests lose all sense of self control and end up bouncing off the walls then that's down to them, no-one is forcing them to have any! (Same as with the bar).

I don't go to weddings expecting extras like this, but I do think they're a nice touch. If people want them then they should be allowed to be excited about them and not be made to feel guilty with comments about it being a waste of money or the cause of an increase in Type 2 diabetes! Likewise if you don't want one- don't have one! I'm sure your wedding will be perfect for you regardless :-)

We are not having a candy cart/ sweet buffet for several reasons, even though I do love a well known brand of jelly sweets. The first wedding I went to that had a sweet buffet I thought, ooh that's something a bit different how nice, the second wedding I thought 'this must be the current trend' by the third I thought it was becoming a bit 'old hat'. (Maybe I just know a lot of people who love sweets :-) ) I was actually pleased that my cousin went back to favours earlier this year. The sweet table seems to have taken over from the chocolate fountain lol. must admit at the second wedding I didn't like the sight of teenage children filling the bags to the brim, taking them to their parents to put away and then returning to the table again leaving very few sweets for the rest of the guests. This seems greedy to me but the parents of said children didn't seem to think anything of it. If this happened at our wedding I think it would really annoy me. It was interesting that two of the bride's from these weddings said in hindsight they wished they hadn't bothered with the sweet table because people ate them instead of the cake which had cost hundreds of pounds. I'm all for having quirky/fun things to make weddings that bit different but I'm beginning to think that pintrest is actually making weddings become similar. I have a very large family and have been to a lot of weddings, in the past people seemed to think of their own little ways to make their wedding different but recently I've been to a few that seem to be almost carbon copies. I love it when people come up with different ideas e.g a few I've seen on here include a crepe station, the bride & groom arriving together on a bike type thing (I go by many names, I think this was you), rubber ducks in the garden water fountain etc. There are some very creative people on here who come up with some fab ideas!

Totally agree RomanticEmeralds. When I first saw a sweet table at a wedding I thought it was really cool and unique but now they're just becoming a bit standard! Damn you Pinterest, I love it but maybe weddings are becoming a bit samey.

I initially thought I would have a sweets table but we're going to have canapes, a three course sit down dinner followed by coffee and petit fours then wedding cake... and pasties are coming out for the evening food. A sweet table just seems a bit too much and as we're not having children at the wedding I think the guests would much prefer if I spent an extra £50 on alcohol for the tables!

I just don't understand wedding favours. I went to one wedding where they had nail polish for the girls and mini bottles of spirits for the boys which was such a nice idea but must have been bloody expensive! Surely paying for your guests dinner and drinks is enough?! I certainly wasn't expecting it. I went to another wedding where they had smores as their favours and there were so many left on the tables afterwards. I don't think it was meant to be nasty but a lot of guests didn't want to eat them straight away as they were all stuffed and then couldn't fit them in their handbag/didn't want them to melt or get crushed in their pockets and then got drunk and forgot them. Just seemed like a waste of money.

Can you get away with not having wedding favours?!

I really think it's the parents responsibility to moderate what goes in their child's mouth and no one else's. I love sweet buffets, we're definitely having one at our wedding and, yes, there will be a lot of children there. But as far as I'm concerned its up to the respective parents to decide if and how many sweets they're allowed.

I'm mother to a 4yo and he doesn't have sweets everyday, nor does he have a 3 course meal everyday or wear a suit everyday but normal rules obviously can be relaxed for one day. But that's not to say he will get 'carte blanche' either. The last wedding we were at I had to drag him away from the sweet table on more than one occasion, but that's my job to know when to say 'enough.'

We are having a sweet table because that's what we want to have at our wedding as we both like the traditional sweets. We are only having 4 children and I know their parents will moderate what they have and will most likely be with them at the sweet table making sure they are not taking the p*ss, the adults will of course decide if they do or don't want sweets. To be honest, there's enough to worry about other than the action at the sweet table.

We aren't doing traditional favours but are instead spending that money on making a donation to the "stroke association" in memory of both of our grandads who passed away due to strokes - some people may think this is a lovely idea, some may not like it but again its our day and thats all that should matter. So we are doing what makes us happy.

Everyone has opinions and everyones opinion is different but think people should do what they want on their day & spend their money how they wish.

Keep smiling everyone ?

Yes that was me, we wanted our guests to remember our wedding amongst all the predictable carbon-copy weddings (no offense intended, I've been to some very predictable weddings and still had a great time). It also made it very memorable for us, I love telling the story of riding across the Millenium Bridge in heavy rain.

Here's a flash, because why not?

We're planning to put small pails on each table with mixed small sweets in them, that way parents can supervise what the kids are eating. I've also been to a wedding where guests were filling bags and putting them in their bags or jackets for taking home and leaving almost nothing for everyone else.

My photographer has an excellent idea instead of a photo booth. He's bringing along a backdrop of a tropical island and loads of silly props and then in the lull between the end of the meal and the DJ starting up, he goes round encouraging everyone to come up and have silly photos done and then we will get digital copies of them all in with our more formal pics and will share them with everyone so they get professional quality, large pics instead of small passport photo size. He's charging us £100 for this rather than the usual £600+ for a photobooth

We aren't having one as I decided they had been done to death at the weddings I have been to recently. We did do save the dates though and I think they have a purpose as it meant that all of the important people knew the date and can now make it! X

I'd quite like the idea of a sweetie table - we're the first of our friends to get married so even if it's done a lot I think people will also enjoy the novelty and tastiness.

We're also having a fruity table mainly because we have a few diabetics and I love fresh fruit - they're very reasonable

The fruit table looks great! Especially for us vegans. I'd be very happy to find that at a wedding.

Just adding my two cents here. I don't think we will have a sweetie table but that's more to do with the fact I'm not a fan of shared food like that - I'm weird about germs haha! I'm sure it's fine but it's not my thing. However my mate did have one and after a few gins I got over my germ fears haha!

However I'm a big fan of Save The Dates. I've got the most appalling memory so anything to help me remember date of your wedding so I can make sure I'm not working! The wee fridge magnets are IMO the best - that way every time I open the fridge I remember I still need to book that holiday and I can use it to stick something else important to the fridge (usually the childminder's holidays or school holidays) so I don't forget that too!

We're having save the date magnets too. I have seen some lovely ones on Vista Print which are around £25. We are getting married in the summer and I would like to make sure that everyone knows the date prior to booking their holidays! Plus we aren't having children so it will give the parents plenty of notice to find a baby sitter!

I am having magnetic save the dates for exactly the reason the post above mine says (sorry, I can't check your name now that I am writing!) plus I worry if they were cards, they'd get forgotten about in a drawer! X

Holy smokes! MrsRees2B can I come to your wedding? ?

It sounds like my idea of heaven.

I love this thread. Of course sweetie buffets aren't necessary. Some people like them and some people don't. favours aren't necessary, Some people like them and some people don't.

I don't dip into hitched much these days (over a year since the wedding: time flies!) but it does seem sometimes that we all get so wrapped up in our planning that after making a decision on what to have for ourselves the temptation is to seek approval somehow by denigrating other choices. It's a natural enough thing to think but awful to see written down.

Our wedding was completely backwards and I don't think my Mum will ever understand us, but we spent on what we thought was important and saved on what was less important to us: thus we skimped on clothes, formality, chair covers and didn't have a sit down meal etc. Doesn't mean that we 'hate them' or 'don't see the point in them', or any other phrase which might make someone who did choose these things feel bad...just a different choice.

Thus I'm the queen of wedding frippery: sweety bar, ice cream van, outdoor games, bouncy castle, cake of cheese (as well as cake of cake), tray-bake buffet, pashmina basket, bathroom baskets, circus skills workshop, crafts, activity books, curtain of cranes, walls decorated with framed quotes about love and marriage, wish tree, wish poster, wish bunting, selfie corner, street food served all day, free bar and free transport for everyone. Loads of bonkers and possibly unnecessary stuff. I loved it and so did my husband.

I made my dress for less than GBP100, but I'd never say that designer gowns are a pointless waste of money: just because my choice was different doesn't mean it's wrong.

Oh, and tablet is so sweet it sets my teeth on edge even though it is a fabulously decadent Scottish treat! ?

We aren't having one, because every wedding we have been to since 2009 (about 7) have had one plus I know the two we are going to next year have them too. i will echo what someone else said about it being the chocolate fountain of today. We aren't having a photo booth either. BUT I wouldn't scoff at anybody else having them, it's their wedding and I will happily dig in to the pink shrimps and foamy bananas or stand with a fake moustache and have a snap because that is what they want to remember their day

I am toying with a toffee apple table as it is an Autumn themed wedding.

I did think of this but worried that some people won't like toffee apples, I know my my mum doesn't or some other family members so though to do a mixture of apple candles/toffee apples/chocolate apples and then leave them for people to take as favours rather than put them on their table places?