Too chubby to be my friend's bridesmaid?

Your post has an error in it. You refer to a 'friend' telling you that you need to lose weight in order to be her bridesmaid. A 'friend' would never do that.

I suggest you find yourself some real friends, people who will love you for who you are and not judge you for how you look (or don't look). Decline the 'friend's' wedding invitation with thanks. You don't need someone that shallow and selfish in your life anyway.

Absolutely everything that RGS said! What a truly awful person you'd have to be to say that. You deserve much better friends and i'd be fully declining her invite and moving on with my life x

She is an awful person!!! IF you wanted to slim down that’s up to you, but not a friend telling you. If she cared she wouldn’t care that you were heavier? My bridesmaid is between a 24/26 and I would never! She is fabulous and gorgeous! I’m a size 10! I don’t want her to feel she is only good enough if she lost weight. I love her for her. On the other hand I bet if you did “slim down” she would be envious if you got slimmer than her! It’s all mucked up. Know your worth but if she wants you as a bridesmaid she takes you as is.

Are you having a laugh this isent a friend to ask you to lose wait x If you wanted to lose weight because you actually want to then yes but not because she wants you too I would cancel the friend situation altogether x ♥️

I wouldn't dare ask anyone to slim down to be a part of my bridal party! I've even told my bridesmaids they can pick their own style of dress aslong as they feel comfortable it just has to be the colour I choose. I think your "friend" is far from deserving to be called that. Sending you lots of support x

Your friend should accept you for who you are nothing to with your outward appearance. I don't think she is a true friend asking you to slim down or else you can't be a bridesmaid. Does not sound right to me.

Firstly, I'm so sorry you've had to experience something like this. I can't imagine how it must have made you feel!
I completely agree that this is really an awful thing for someone to say to you and a terrible position to put you in. I would decline and explain that you will not be doing so... hopefully she can find her morals along the way too...

My advice hun, wish her well with her wedding, and then cut her out of your life


A real friend would never ask you to do that, but she's toxic. And you're much better off without her x

Echo everything said above here! She’s not a real friend so my advice is to find better friends

Nah , that’s no friend . I hope you are ok , please do t put pressure on yourself for anyone no matter what . I’m actually disgusted .

I’m a plus-size bride & I have bridesmaids both skinny & my size. I would never dream of asking someone to change the way they look for me!


Your ‘friend’ is not a true friend if they do. She should accept you for who you are. Maybe you could ask her to put on weight to match you 😉

Many bridesmaid dress brands now accommodate diverse body types in their designs? I suggest you not to lose weight and instead choose clothes from suitable brands, such as AZAZIE, JJ, etc.

Hiya, I'm a bride planning her wedding and I can tell you this: As a bride if you want someone to be a part of your bridal party you will ask them regardless of their size!!!! From my point of view when you are picking a bridesmaid you think about how much you value that friendship and relationship with the person and how close you are with the person, not how good they will look in a dress.

My MOH is going to be 8 months pregnant at the wedding, my other bridesmaid is going to be 7 months pregnant at the time of the wedding, they are not plus size however they will need plus size dresses as it is hard to find maternity bridesmaids dresses. Regardless, I would never ever even ask any of my bridesmaids to lose any weight to fit a certain image. I value my girls so much and it is more important for me that they are there and feel appreciated rather than being able to fit in a certain dress.

Honey you are better off as not being a bridesmaid! I'm sorry your ''friend'' even dared to ask you this. That person is clearly not your friend and she should not have asked you to lose any weight to be a bridesmaid. I would reconsider attenting the wedding at all.