Tuesday wedding

I think for family or a close friend I'd still go on a Tuesday but it'd mean probably three days off work for some people if they are travelling a long way. Might be worth considering how much notice you are giving people in terms of their holiday year at work. For example I've already booked a two week holiday next year and know I'll be having another week off for hen dos and other weddings so I'd only have a more week to take for the whole year. This os getting rambly but hopefully you understand what I'm trying to say!

Also if you were thinking of having additional people in the evening then they might not come of they've got to go to work in the morning

The people you want to be at your wedding will make the effort to come even if it means booking a day or two off work.

I think the only thing you might find is that people may hold themselves back a bit or leave a bit earlier if they don't have the day after off as well.

Pugsley I honestly don't think it is as simple as everyone will make the effort.

In my job we have no option of unpaid leave so if I've used up all my holiday before receiving the invite I genuinely wouldn't be able to go. That's all I was trying to point out. I know this is only my experience but I was only trying to make the op aware of the potential pitfalls of a mid week wedding

We're getting married on a Monday so I've been sending my save the date cards nice and early. That gives everyone time to book the day off work if necessary. We're also not having our reception until the following saturday as I want a big party with all our friends and family there. I know there are still a couple of people who have to travel and therefore might not be able to come to goth, but my hope is they can come to one or the other. If you're having thevwhole package on one day, that would be an easier decision for your guests! My advice is send out your save the date cards nice and early and have your wedding when you want it x

Bekkijane- Just sheer nosiness here but I was wondering why you're having your wedding on a Monday but the reception on the Saturday.

I think providing you give plenty of notice and by that I'd suggest at least a year, you should be ok.

I agree with Holey that it isn't always that simple to say if people want to be there they will be. For example, where i work no more than 2 people can be off at any one time, additionally I only get 20 days holiday a year and due to my own wedding and other time off I've got no more days to take between now and next April. So if i was invited to a wedding now for a Tuesday in March, i couldnt regardless of how close i was to that person.

Hence I think you need to give plenty of notice to maximise the chances of your guests being able to attend.

Obviously there may be the odd one or two who have extenuating circumstances which mean they cannot come. I do however think that the majority of people, so long as they are given plenty of notice will be more than happy to use a day's annual leave up for someone's wedding.

If I cared about the person and wanted to be there I would definitely take the days off if I could, but as Holey suggests, it would depend on what else I had on that year in terms of holidays. For example this year I have have already been away for 2 weeks, and have a week booked off later in the year, and with an odd couple of days here and there for hen dos, I may struggle.

With people travelling from Midlands, as has been pointed out, people may have to take 3 days off work, which is quite an ask. Are Mondays a possibility?

Lol no blame for the curiosity eclair! We're getting married on my h2bs 50th birthday, but because its a Monday and everyone has children at school and/or works, we decided to have the reception on a saturday. That way we can have the big party we want. Also, it actually costs us less that way and as we have a really tight budget, that works best for us x

I would say make sure you give people lots of notice so they can make sure they save some holiday to take the time off work. You might find people may leave a bit early if they have work the next day but then some people would prob see it as a one off so would just enjoy themselves. I think it will be fine

Have to say I'm in agreement with people saying it might mean some people cannot go no matter how much they want to. If it involves travelling on the Monday and Wednesday that'd be three days off work and for someone like my OH who doesn't get paid if he doesn't work that would make it a real financial strain. Plus I used to work in a job that had lots of rules around leave and getting leave in school holidays was really hard, sometimes I could swap shifts but I missed a few special occassions while working there because I couldn't get the time off. I think saying people who really really care will be there is misleading; it's something I've heard a lot to do with weddings and it's not true, sometimes no matter how much you care and want to be there for someone circumstances mean it's not possible. I would have hated it for anyone who's special event I had to miss because of work to think it was because I didn't care enough to take time off.

You know the people you're inviting so have a think about their circumstances - if you've got lots of people who're self employed or in another job without annual leave then it's probably not a great idea but if you've got lots who work weekends or in education and it's in the holidays then they may actually find it easier. And letting people know as far in advance as you can will always help.

I agree, that the Monday might be better is possible.

I'm getting married on a Thursday and having the party on the Saturday. But the only people invited to the actual ceremony are our parents and kids, so the only people who need to book the day off are H2B and me!

Our's is a Monday and we always knew we wanted a weekday as it's so much cheaper. I'm a teacher as it much of my (and OH's) family so it isn't too bad. I too am sending out STDs specifically so that people know that they have to take time off. I'm less worried about the day guests than the evening guests. I'm a bit concerned that no-one will come in the evening!

We are having a wednesday wedding in april in the easter holidays! Wednesday 9th April 2014!

People who want to be there will be there!

I was the same - found my dream venue- but couldnt actually afford a weekend wedding! People form further away were releeaved it was in the week actually as costs less for accomodation x

THIS! x

However much I would love to go (not that you've invited me...) I wouldn't be able to, I have no annual leave left and although a day's lieu here or there might be possible, 3 days to include travelling would be out of the question.

That's a real tough one.

I like the idea of a random weekday though. Would feel a bit 'naughty' as though you're all bunking off of life for the day or something!

As others have said it depends on their holiday situations. I'd almost definitely attend a friend's wedding if it was a weekday, but if it fell in my next holiday year then I'd have very little holiday left due to my own wedding so I guess it would depend how good the friend was as to whether I'd go.

It's a really tricky situation.

Me and my OH attended the evening do for his cousin's wedding a few years ago and that was on a Tuesday. We got there around 8pm and everyone was gone by about 9:30.

Ours was a Monday as it was the date we wanted. We knew it would work for our guests, very few had to take it off work and they were close family that we knew wouldn't mind.

Date booked. It's a small wedding. Thanks for your replies they were really useful.

Yes. its an issue for some people, although most may well make a full event out of it.

I did a Tuesday wedding recently and it was fine with no major friends or family missing...so it can work out fine....Every wedding has a different dynamic and one answer does not fit all.

Peter