Wedding Gifts

You could include a line on your invitation which says something like “we don’t need any gifts, and your presence is the only present we want”. It’s clear that you don’t want anything that way! There will always be some people who do, but hopefully it will at least encourage them to only get something small!

We have the same situation, sad their presence was enough and no gifts but people are onstantly asking and saying they want to give us something. In the end we have set up a bank account and said if they really want to give someone then donate to our honeymoon fund and that we will be donating 25% of whatever is given to charity.

View quoted message Hi, thanks for that. A good idea but still hard to ask for money when it is second time around, something to think about

View quoted message We felt the same but figured that we would rather that than people buy stuff we wouldn't use as that would be a waste

This is a hard one my sister did this and nobody listened to them they still came with gifts she put we have been together for so long and everythink we need so please leave the gifts the only gift we need is the pleasure of you being at our wedding xx Its really hard xx💗

View quoted message Thank you Michelle, I think we will have to chose a charity to save any embarrassment.

View quoted message Any time what about an animal charity xx 💗

Similar situation here. Telling guests we don't need anything but they can donate to a charity of their choice. But if they insist then contributions to honey moon. I think that's pretty fair and you're clearly not expecting any gifts but it is a wedding and I think people expect to provide the newly weds with something 😉 might as well roll with it.

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Is hard to word it, but remeber you are not asking for money, they are insisting on giving you something so try not to think of it that way. We put the below on our invites.

We have been asked about a gift list, but as we have been together for 5 years we have already accumulated quite a life together. and genuinly have no need for anything other than eachother and your presence on the day. If you feel you would like to gift us with more than your presence, a contribution towards our honeymoon would be greatly appreciated. We have set up a bank account and we will be happy to share the details with you. However, what we really hope for is that we get to celebrate our special day with you.

We have only had one person ask for the bank details! I am worried we will receive a load of gifts and without sounding rude, stuff that we wont use or will just gather dust as we simply dont have room in our flat for anything else. That said, we are in the process of buying our dream home which is due to complete a few weeks after the wedding but we havent told anyone as we will announce it at the wedding that we bought ourselves a present, a house!

View quoted message Thank you for the advice and the bank account idea and see who does ask for details

This is really common now as people live together before they get married and therefore don’t need what was traditionally called “the bottom drawer” a things like cutlery sets, toasters and crockery!
This is my first marriage , I am 45 with two kids and my own house and my fiancé has been married before so we have asked people to contribute to our honeymoon which will be a family trip to Disneyland in Florida next year. I’ve mentioned that in passing to a few people who have asked and I’ve added a PayPal link to the invite but I reckon most people will still bring cash in a card. No one has asked about the PayPal so I bet half of them haven’t even read it!

We told people that we didnt' want gifts but that anyone who wished to mark our wedding could send a gift to charity. Some people did, but we still had a load of unwanted tat - cutesy 'just married' mugs and ornaments, paperweights, pictures...most of it went straight to the charity shop apart from the personalised stuff which is lurking in a corner.