What are peoples reasons for renewing wedding vows?

We are thinking of it because, whilst our wedding day was lovely in someways it was also a total farce in others. Seriously if you go by Sex In The City we are going to be together forever as our wedding was so filled with disasters (highlights include Car not showing up, Family Politics by Mr P's family, Grandad having a coronary arrest, first dance used to cover up the drama outside the marquee so none of my parents or the videographer saw it, then we lost all our wedding gifts when The Gift Registry went bust, and there was so much more). I really wanted to elope but Mr P wanted a wedding so we had one, now we mostly wish we had just eloped. We are thinking of doing it on our 10th wedding aniversary because it seems like a decent milestone, we aren't doing anything big just going somewhere quiet, reaffirming our vows to each other and (if I have lost a lot of weight and I am feeling better abut myself) spunking some money on a really fab photographer.

My friend's considering this. She had a big white wedding planned and then her H jilted her a few days before it. When he changed his mind they went off to do it quietly- she was scared to make a big deal out of it in case the same thing happened. They've been married 14 years now and have 3 children and she still feels she missed out on her chance to have a big day- she even bought her flowers from the stand outside the tube station and she never got to wear a nice frock. So she's considering either a 15 years anniversary party or a vow renewal.

My inlaws have just renewed their vows, and it was more wedding than our wedding! White dress, long train, hundreds of bridesmaidy-flower-girly-pag-boyey attendants, the works really. At it wasn't an anniversary that ended in 5 or 0.

To be honest I didn't really get it, but they seemed to have a fab day, which is what counts.

Puss, jeez, that sounds like a nightmare !! ?

I think if I were to do it I would do it on a cruise.

My marriage certainly hasnt been smooth, we nearly didnt make it to 13 months, and in a way it keeps coming back to me that while mrS was saying his vows he had all these worries and pressures and secrets from me. That is just being stupid though, as we had a fab day, although I was oblivious to things.

Oooh, we'll do it some point. Only because we got married in Vegas and with our wedding package we got a free renewal of vows for life (as long as it's not a weekend ?).

When we got married (2005) it was quite a formal do (for Vegas). I had a proper wedding dress etc. I think the next time we'll do a drive through or fancy dress or something ?. I don't know when though. We are going back in December but it seems a bit soon!

<controversial> The only reason I think is reasonable is if the orginal marriage vows have been broken <sorry>

Edited to add that anyone else's opinions are equally valid and I would never dream of denegrating anyone else's desicion. this is purely and simply my own opinion. Maybe if I was married I would understand. ?

However I have to say that when someone tells me they are renewing, my first instinct is to ask 'Why, did you break your vows?'

But what about fancy dress? ?

On a serious note, we wouldn't even dream of it BUT we have our free vow renewal and with it being in Vegas it seems like a good excuse for a parteeeee! ?

We have thought about it, we got married within 5 days of booking it, quick do no photo's etc. We had just lost a baby so think it was a mad moment (I have told him on more than one occasion I wasn't in the right state of mind so it's void lol).

But 11 years today, 5 kids, 4 lost babies late in pregnancy, a son who will need new lungs before long and one who is having major surgery to save his best kidney next friday I think we have done ok? so never say never, the tummy tuck and boob job may have to come first though?

Blimey titchbunny! Some people really amaze me with what they manage to cope with.

Happy anniversary ?

? Mine is to say 'Oh dear, I didn't realise marriage vows ran out.'

I wish we had gone off to Vegas (or somewhere) to get married, but I thought it would be nice to have my family there. It was a bit of nightmare really (though not overall) and too much hard work. Maybe if we're still in the states in 5 years time I'll convince my husband to go to Vegas for a 10 year renewal ?

Apparantly an ex-colleague is getting married in the place Peaches Geldof did next month. Her and her partner have been together for about 15 years.

I have only been married for 9 months, and it was an amazing day, but I reckon I would renew my vows (which we wrote for the other) whether that was in 5, 10 or 20 years' time!

I think of it more to re-affirm/evaluate and an excuse for a damn good party, rather than anything sinister like broken vows or a shaky marriage, tbh!

I read that the singer Seal and his wife Heidi Klum "get married" again every year-which they have done either 2 or 3 times so far, and have pledged to do so for the rest of their lives-obviously things are different in la la land, but I kinda think that rocks!

My friend renewed her wedding vows on a cruise recently. Her H was involved in an explosion in Port Talbot steelworks in 2001 and almost didn't pull through. He is badly burned and hasn't been able to work since. He arranged it all on their 25th anniversary as a thank you to his wife, who was his rock. I think that was a beautiful gesture.

Another friend has been married 2 and a half years and wants to renew them already ? She had a big wedding with all the trimmings, so she's just eager to have the big party, posh frock and new diamonds all over again!

I don't think we'd renew our vows, but then, after 6 years of being engaged, we haven't quite got round to getting married in the first place! ? There's more go in a bottle of pop than us, as my lovely Mam would say.

We had a brilliant wedding, I couldn't have wished for a better day. I've always had a hankering to get married by Elvis in Vegas, so one day we might do that I suppose. We were in Vegas last October but it seemed too soon. ?

I quite like the idea of going abroad somewhere and refreshing (is that better than renewing I don't know) the vows on the beach somewhere with only Amelia (and any other children we may have by that point) present.

I'd do it because we never actually said any vows. We got married in Belgium, civil ceremony and the only thing you get to say there is "yes". So it would be nice to actually make some vows towards each other.

If we ever win the lottery, we'd do it with a big party and a guest list that isn't dominated by MIL's social "responsibilities" ?

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We married in Vegas and despite asking for the 'repeat after me' vows, the minister forgot. All I said was "I do" and the next thing I knew I was back out in the car park and it was done. I never felt properly married as I didn't get to say those (to me) important words. We married on 3/3/3 at 3pm and were both 33, so in keeping with the 3 thing we renewed on our 3rd anniversary. The newal was better than the wedding, I cried and everyfink ?

We want to renew ours, basically as when we got married it was because we wanted to be married, we didn't have the wedding that either of us wanted, we go no food due to a *** up at the venue and it all went by so fast that neither of us really remember it. My dream wedding wouldn't actually have been legal so we want to do it the way I've always wanted.

For me, it's when you've been married a certain amount of time (however long) and you want to show the world (slightly twee, sorry) that the vows you took x amount of years ago still matter to you as much as they did then.

We had a lovely civil ceremony and wrote our own vows, however I wouldnt do a 'renewal of vows' as I think they stand forever more, I would like to have a church blessing maybe for our 10th anniversary which wouldnt be renewing anything as it would be a totally different thing. 5 years to wait then!