My side of the wedding party (Team Bride) is split between guys and girls - I want them all to feel as important as each other.
Officiant and Ushers: Three guys who are straight and not while they're not "blokey" they are more typically guy-ish.
Bridesmaids/MOH: Two girls who are pretty stereotypically girly. One guy who is gay and quite feminine, likes to be treated like one of the girls, doesn't wear dresses but does wear necklaces and sometimes more 'masculine' cut women's jeans and jackets, gets his nails done, etc.
Wedding is on the beach in my favourite place, Cornwall, so very much a seaside theme.
Thinking I'll get the guys a nice holdall from a company I really like - they are really unique and coastal looking as they are made out of sailcloth, I have one myself and they are sturdy and great, I already know at least one of the guys would like definitely one. About £80. I'd pop a bottle of their favourite booze in each too.
For the bridemaids group I spotted a nice summery robe in a quite fancy shop the other day. It's turquoise (the bridesmaid colour) with some pretty pink and white flowers. Think it's one size so hopefully would fit the two girls and the guy. It's about £50. I've also found a few potential necklaces with a wave pendants on etsy that come in silver or gold so I'd get one for each of them in their preferred jewellery colour. About £30-£40. I'd probably also get myself the robe and necklace so we could also all wear them on the day as well, and thinking I might get my mum one of the necklaces too.
What do you think? Does that sound like an appropriate level of gift? Is it enough? Too much? I'm trying to avoid anything that's emblazoned with the date or 'bridesmaid' so they can wear/use again, but that still feels cohesive to the wedding theme so it's a nice memory for everyone rather than something they might have got for a birthday or something. I'm debating buying these this year even though the wedding is next year just to spread out my costs a bit... again, interested to here thoughts on that as an idea, I'm very much in the dark with what's the done thing with this!
Also, when do you give the gifts? On the day, day before, at the hen, some other time...?