When do you ask your bridesmaids?

Congratulations on your engagement!

I got engaged April 2022 with an April 2025 wedding date. I asked my sister to be maid of honor next time I seen her which was July 2022. I'm asking my other 2 bridesmaids in the next couple of months.
I've liked spreading it out a bit to have a bit of excitement every few months, and was also working around some important events in my bridesmaids lives, so that I didn't add another thing onto their plate

I got engaged in December 2020 and my wedding is this June. I had an engagement party in July 2021, so I wanted to ask them before this. I think I ended up asking them in April 2021. It was during the Covid restrictions so I did it outside and ordered grazing platters, balloons etc and I gave them each a gift with a card that asked them.

I think ask them whenever you are ready. I have been friends with my bridesmaids for years, so I knew I wanted to ask them fairly soon.

Congratulations that is up to you you could ask now this way give you time to plan and look at bridesmaids dresses but remember body shapes change so wouldnt order yet but you can look for ideas styles and colours x♥️good luck x

I asked mine pretty soon after we'd had our venue booked - so about 18 months in advance. FH took a bit longer stressing over who to ask, so he asked his closer to a year in advance. I think it's good to ask early, so people can get invited/feel involved, but not to rush it if there's any doubt in your mind as to who you want in the roles.

I'm going to take a different tack here and suggest leaving it until a year or so before your wedding. Why? Because I've seen soooooooo many posts from brides who've asked their bridesmaids 2 or 3 years before the day only to find as time goes on that the friendships change and they're left having to choose between either having a bridesmaid they don't want or making the difficult decision to 'sack' their bridesmaid. I know you're probably thinking that would never happen to you...but I suspect most if not all of these brides thought the same once!

I asked all four of mine within two months of getting engaged, before we even had a venue/date! It’s nice to have them fully involved as early as possible I think ☺️

Congratulations!


We are going married in late November 2024, I asked my bridesmaid and bridesman literally a week after the proposal. It's totally up to you to decide