Wording for gifts/money

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We didn't put anything in our invitations, in fact, we didn't make any kind of list whatsoever. We received mostly cash (from maybe 95% of guests) with the odd token gift (from those who had fab ideas!).

Exactly what we did.

I like poems and was originally going to put one in our invitations, but after seeking advice from fellow Hitchers, we've decided against it.

I kinda thought that if we didn't specify what we wanted, we would end up with loads of stuff we don't need. But then OMs told me that they mostly received money - which is what we would ask for anyway.

We received an invitation in the post last week that didn't have anything about gifts. We're just going to ask them what they want/give them money.

We're not going to mention gifts/money/vouchers in our invitations as everyone who's coming knows we've lived together for years and so have everything we need. People will hopefully use their noggin and get us something personal to us or give us money/vouchers. I would never dream of going to a wedding without a gift (cash/vouchers/other) and card regardless of whether there's a poem/no mention of gifts on the invitation.

Our parents had nothing to do with our invitations. The wedding was completely paid for by us so we didnt send the invites from our parents.

This will happen anyway. Our wedding isn't for another 7 months, so invites haven't gone out yet, and people have already asked my parents what we would like.

Working off this logic we left our slip of paper about guests out of invitations for people that we thought in any way might not like it. IF they ask our parents, they'll be told there's a list.

I think you missed my point. I don't think it puts pressure on anyone by leaving it out. I don't really understand how it would? We haven't yet got to the stage of giving our invites (with or without gift list info) and people are already asking my parents. Do they feel harassed? No.

I'm not saying you should stick with a kettle. My point was that the tradition for bringing gifts to a wedding was to set the couple up in their new home, what is the basis for saying that as you already have a home full of the things you need, it's ok to ask for an alternative gift? Yes I know people might want to get you something and it's better to have what you'd like but FTLOMB's post nicely covers how to handle this without asking.

OH and I considered this for quite a while. Like many, we don't need anything for our house so were going to ask for contributions towards the honeymoon (the same way Mrs C did) but thought people would think this was too much of a faff and just give money anyway. So then we thought about how to put it as we don't like money poems either and in the end decided not to bother with either. It's only close family and friends coming anyway so we will tell our parents that if anyone asks what we would like, to tell them money.

Mrs C- I'm curious to know whether anyone rung up and paid money towards your honeymoon via the reference code? As you probably know, we used the same company as you and thought this was a brilliant idea but weren't sure if people would do it or not.

The guests phoned up and purchased gift cards, which they then put into our cards so that we had something when we opened them.

We were pleasantly suprised with how many that did. We had no idea in advance what had been purchased, which is what I don't like about certain gift lists.

The only people that gave us cash were family (in advance of the wedding and not necessarily for Honeymoon) and a few of my friends who gave us US Dollars to spend while we were away.