"Adult Conversations"

? what total ?

Thats just downright rude!! I'd be fuming too.

How patronising! I'm not surprised you're fuming, I would be too.

How rude! They possibly felt uncomfortable by you pointing out how whinging they were?

To be fair to them, you did interrrupt their conversation with a smug and sanctimonious comment.

That is so rude, no wonder you are fuming, I would be too but you are better than them, rise about it.

I can see your point about the adult conversation comment, however, you did interrupt them, they didn't ask for your comments and doesn't everyone moan about working over Christmas? I know I certainly used to (when I was working) and probably will do again should I have to work inconvenient hours over Christmas next year. Also, everyone is moaning about the credit crunch and how it's affecting them. It's not because they don't care about other people and their problems, most people when they get in a group tend to discuss such things. Doesn't mean they're heartless, just normal (imo) <zebra type shrug>

"If we wanted your opinion we'd ask for it" isn't that polite either

What she said!

exactly what i was going to say, word for word.

its a little like sitting in a restaurant and whinging to eat other about the food, and some smart arse comes along and says "there are people starving in africa you know"

Ok there comments about being 'an adult' were pretty rude but to be honest they were having a moan about the crappy credit crundh and working over christmas .......both things that are worthy of moaning about to be honest.

I'm grateful I have a job but I tell you what if you get me going about the fact I'm having to work from midnight until 9am New years eve then you will hear moaning. If someone was then to tell me to be grateful that I had a job they would probably get a slightly ruder reply than what you got.

True, but that in no way justifies that sort of response.

Actually thinking about it you are probably ruder than they were for your comment about them being grateful for having a job!!

Absolutely wss. I'm afraid I probably would have told you to eff off, how holier than thou can you get?

I probably wouldn't have used the "adult conversation" line but I would have given the OP pretty short shrift.

Oh me too ?

i d have been far more rude actually.

WSophie(and others)S

How smug can you get?!

If you can't moan about working over Christmas - however vital or worthy your job is - in the staff canteen, then where can you!

I know that 'I picked the hours when I picked the job', 'someone has to work Christmas' and all that jazz, and I love my job, but that doesn't make it suck any less when you're away from your family for Christmas. If you'd have said that to me I'd have been far ruder I'm afraid. WTF has it got to do with you what they are talking about?!

Hmm, I'm inclined to agree!

Yes they were rude, and yes there are undoubtedly people worse off than they are, but they're still entitled to have a whinge about their lot - if I was having to work over Christmas, I'd probably moan about it too - it wouldn't mean I didn't know how lucky I was to still have a job in the first place.

Well I'm obvioulsy nicer than you ?

I think perhaps it's the patronising content that would have made me fuming. a "piss off you sanctimonious so-and-" wouldn't have been nearly as contentious.

To be fair, as others said, you did interrupt them with what could have been taken as quite a rude comment too. I think it's normal to have a moan about things. IMO, if you thought about others who were worse off than you are, you'd never feel as though you could complain and hitched for one would be even quieter.

Obviously, their comments were rude back, but I would be peeved at you for what you said as well.

Ah yes, the "one word - Tsunami" argument.

And, WSophieS.

Sorry.

What the others said.

My colleague is at her desk in tears this afternoon - she will be working all over Christmas on a very poorly-organised deal, and has been in the office all night most of this week. This afternoon she's had to cancel her place at our Christmas meal (which she organised) because the client requires her to be in the office tonight.

If I went over to her and suggested she think about the fact that she's lucky to have a job, I think she'd be perfectly justified in throwing me out of the window.

I didn't interrupt them, maybe i should of made that clearer in my first post (was just typing fast) I was stood there, next to them, somebody else even said the same as me, i didn't say it in a smug nor sanctamonius way, neither did i mind them "moaning" about having to work over christmas ( i do too and i say the same as what they did) what really hacked me off was they didn't say to the other person what they said to me, it was aimed at me and purely me, even though another person said the same as me (before me).

But that's not what you said in the OP at all!

But if someone else had already said it, why say it again? Surely whatever point you were trying to make had already been made by this other person?

Also, if you don't have a problem with them moaning, why say anything at all?

Am a bit confused as to why you said anything based on your update.

Hence this comment.

Don't play with them anymore.

I love it when someone says exactly what I'm thinking.

What Sophie said...

To be honest, I think this is a time of year that people are either compeltely happy and jolly or really are down int he dumps. And I think sometimes people just want to let some steam out. I am lucky enough to have pre christmas off (bar logging on at home to check stuff briefly) but some aren't and if it is a big deal to them then I do feel abit sorry for them not being able to spend that time with their families, especially in the current climate.

I don't know about anyone else but work is very hard at the mo for most people and it's just venting it out. Having said that it was abit patronising to you....