Bridezilla!

Sounds like jealousy to me.

Clearly she's proven herself that it's better to book things up early, than be disappointed later on. The fact that you have been given a quote also suggests that it isn't that ridiculous to book up this early either.

I'd tell her to do one.

It sounds to me as if she's the bridezilla, not you! I don't think there's anything remotely bridezilla-y about being organised well in advance. It helps maintain your sanity further down the line - something it sounds like she is finding out about now!

I was engaged last August, and with my wedding not being until September 2013, that gave me over two years to start planning, but I did so almost immediately. I was also called bridezilla by a couple of people, but I think it's just a term that people like to use to make themselves feel included. Don't take it personally!

I'm very careful that I don't talk exclusively about weddings to other people, as I know it gets boring for them, but I do like to be on top of all my preparations. I bought my dress in February - 19 months before the wedding! We would have had our venue booked at the end of last summer, too, but we were let down by the owners - which ended up being lucky because we found somewhere even better in the end!

Just get as much organised as you want to when you want to and forget what anyone else thinks. When you find something that fits, it would be stupid to leave it and risk missing out.

Ignore her, she's taking out her own frustrations on you. Clearly she is the bridezilla!!!

I have it when people overuse that word anyway, it seems to get banded about way too often just when people don't agree, or when people think you are organised. Just because I am organised and have attention to detail does not make me a bridezilla!!!

You keep planning, get yourself organised and clued up so that you don't turn out all stressy like her!!

I have had a few comments after we got engaged in Jan as we started booking things and people for September 2013, however my view is I know what I want so there for why should I risk not being able to have the exact wedding I want because they might already be booked.

I had done loads of research on photographers and arranged a meeting in March this year and someone else booked our wedding date which I guess has made me more determined to get these things confirmed early.

I agree I think she is just jealous and actually I'm enjoying having first choice ( most of the time) for the suppliers I want.

Just ignore her and carry on regardless and just be super organised.

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She can't honestly believe that. She lost out on the tog she wanted because she wasn't quick enough off the mark.

If she does, then she doesn't know what she's talking about. We booked our tog 2 years in advance. Perfectly normal!

She is definatley more of a bridezilla than you - infact you are no where near bridezilla status yet!! we have been planning for 2 and a half years and the venue and TOG were the first things on my list. You get more choice that way and then you don't run into the problems of missing out on the people you do actually want!!

Totally agree with what everyone else has said, to add to it also the more organised you are the better your budget will be as you wont be estimating things when we all know everything ends up costing far more than you realise!! We got engaged in the Septemeber 2010 to get married this November and had the TOG and venue booked by christmas and the DJ booked by Feb, the other beauty of doing it earlier is that you tend to miss the price rises that seem to happen evey year.

It also helps you to spread your spending - you can pay deposits as you go and any purchases you get, which means spreading it over two years rather than having to come up with everything in one go!

Oh dear it does sound a little bit like jealousy. Most of my weddings are booked 18months to 1 year ahead of the big day and I have a wedding in Cyprus in september that the couple booked me for in the summer of 2010!

Just to put another perspective in. She might be worried you're stealing her "wedding planning" thunder. Had she been talking about her own plans? She might be a bit miffed that now she's not the only one getting married. I had this recently with a friend, she's getting married this year and I'm next year. We were out with a group of friends and I asked the other b2b how her plans were going. She said she was pretty much sorted and so another friend asked me what I had done so far. Well I started talking but the other b2b looked furious that the subject had moved away from her so i quickly said something like "oh but its ages away yet, can't believe X is getting married in 3 weeks!" Don't take the bridezilla comment to heart, I doubt she meant it viciously xx

I was just about to say similar to Vintage84. I am very laid back to booking suppliers and started main things about 11mths before and have most things still to decide/do at 2.5mths to go... My friend has a year plus and the drama it's causing is beginning to grate in all honesty, and it's abroad!

Maybe you've been a bit insensitive to hers and she's a bit miffed? Or prehaps not (and she's being a cow ?)

We booked ours TOG in January for September 2013 & venue November 2011 for September 2013,

Booking things early if possible means you stand a better chance at getting your first choices of everything and in some instances you can get things at the current years prices.

People keep telling me to stop worrying about organising things for my wedding as its ages away!! It's in December this year!!!

Thanks for all your replies!

I think I'm just going to ignore what she said. I'm not sure if it's jealousy, or whether because she's managed to sort her wedding in 6 months that I should be doing the same! But I think I agree with you all when you say it's far less stressful to book far in advance, as well as exploit possible lower prices than in a years time! We'll see what she says when she finds out I've just ordered my crystal bouquet, nearly 2 years in advance!

I haven't started booking yet, but as a bit of a spin from the OP, I think the term "bridezilla" gets thrown out so much for so little reason these days. I'm planning a December wedding, and my best friend was talking to her boss about how excited she was for me. Her boss started talking about fake fur boleros and how lovely they are- my friend said (correctly) "oh, she hates those". Apparently that- having an opinion about what I do and don't like and will and won't wear- makes me a bridezilla!

Personally, I think a bridezilla is someone who has a vision in her head and will scream and shout and destroy things in order to get it, and doesn't care what anyone else thinks.

This. I think it's synonymous with "spoiled brat".

I haven't been called Bridezilla but people thought i was crazy booking the tog a year in advance. I'd say most brides plan for around a year so i really don't see why this is so strange! I'd rather get what a want a year ahead than someone I don't 3 months before!

I do like the word Bridezilla though, I picture godzilla in a wedding dress.

People are so strange. I was going to book our venue over 2 years in advance but because we ended up moving the wedding it was booked exactly 15 months in advance, similar situation with the photographer. In October I am going to my venues wedding fayre with the hope of finding a florist and possibly a cake maker. This makes it 11 months in advance..dress shopping I am starting next month..

I have bought a few bits and pieces already just because they were there and I knew I wanted them but I am not bothering with the little things for a while yet. The big things like your venue and your photographer need booking at least a year in advance if you have any hope of getting the date you want. Of course some people are lucky and can get it all done with 6 months to go but if you know you are getting married in a years time or even 2 years and you have a particular date in mind why on earth would you wait and risk losing out???

Again, not wanting to wear xyz or do this or that does not make someone a bridezilla. I dont want a pink colour scheme and I want my bridesmaids in full length dresses. This does not make me a bridezilla...otherwise you might as well call everybody ...zilla for not wanting something. Nobody has a go at you for wanting to paint your walls a particular colour or drive a certain car..so what is it about weddings??

I started planning at 20 months from our wedding date and had the main things booked at the start, i would say you are organized not bridezilla!!!

Just to update you, I was texting her about various deposits and how OH is complaining because I'm spending far too much money, and when I mentioned about putting the deposit on my bouquet (I'm keep the fact that its a crystal one a secret) her response was 'you don't need to worry about your bouquets yet'.

She promptly shut up when I told her the bouquet supplier has stopped taking orders for 2012!

I can't help but feel victorious! ?