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mickeyandminnie
Beginner July 2015

How did you choose your wedding date?

mickeyandminnie, 7 June, 2012 at 09:35 Posted on Planning 0 43

If i'm beginning to annoy anyone with all my questions please tell me to shut up - i won't be offended!!

How did you choose your wedding date? I'm terrified its going to rain all day what ever day i choose !

I've just spotted that our 8th year anniversary from when we first met will be a Saturday. But it also means its the 14th March!! I don't know whether its a good sign or whether its too likely that it will be rubbish!

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Latest activity by OrdinaryGirl, 10 June, 2012 at 21:51
  • Mrs C
    Beginner March 2011
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    We got married on the 19th March 2011, our 5th anniversary - the weather was glorious!

    But seriously... one thing you cannot plan is the weather, go with a date that means something to you.

    Plus, venues may be cheaper in March, ours was almost half the price than if we had the same thing 2 weeks later!

    ETA: we also wanted to go to the Maldives on Honeymoon, and March was the best time to go!

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  • ForTheLoveOfMrsBrown
    Beginner January 2012
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    Whatever date you choose, the one thing you cannot guarantee (in this country, at least) is the weather. I've been to glorious weddings in March/November and washouts in July. There is absolutely no point in stressing over it.

    There is a website that shows you the last ten years of weather on a specific day in a specific area. I can't remember the name of it but you might find it on Google. Maybe that will help you.

    We chose a venue that had a lower "minumum spend" on a Sunday, compared to Saturday. We therefore booked the next Bank Holiday Sunday that was available (about 17 months ahead). I have no idea what our "meeting" anniversary would be (nor, for that matter, our "date" anniversary, or any other anniversary).

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  • K
    Beginner March 2013
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    We have chose the 3rd march next year as it will be exactly 10years to the day from when we had our 1st date Smiley smile im not even goin think about the weather if it rains it rains although every single one of my friends wedding days have been glorious sunshine from any month to febuary to october!! so they all got lucky x

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  • weemee
    Beginner July 2012
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    As the above posts have said, you can't rely on the weather no matter when your wedding is! If you want to guarantee the weather go abroad I suppose. I'm getting married at the end of July and think it'll be a bonus if it's not completely tanning it down!

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  • Nutella
    Beginner March 2013
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    March is a great month to get married.

    Like you, we of course don't want it to rain, but there's no guarantee of that at any time of year, I'd be gutted if I paid a premium for a 'summer' wedding assuming that it would be glorious weather and it wasn't.

    But actually on the flip side, neither of us want it to be swelteringly hot either, I don't want to spend all day feeling hot flustered and sticky!!!

    I think its a lovely idea to choose your anniverrsary (saves on dates to remember too!) so maybe make some enquiries with venues about costs and then see from there?

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  • cake lady
    Beginner September 2012
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    We're going for my OHs birthday. No excuse to forget our anniversary! It's in early September & falls on a Saturday.Who knows what the weather will be like! We choose this date as we have children & so do most of our friends so we thought it's unlikely that people will be away on holiday during term time. On the down-side it means no honeymoon (or mini-moon as it would have been) for a while.

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  • BlueBow
    Beginner December 2013
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    We wanted to go away for NYE as part of our honeymoon and OH proposed on the 29th dec so it'll be two years after on the day he proposed. This happened accidentally but it has a nice sentiment.

    With regards to going abroad- it doesn't always guarantee glorious weather. My friends just got married in Cyprus 2 weeks ago and they've had a downpour. Feel bad for ER because the main reason was she wanted a hot sunny wedding day.

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  • D
    Beginner April 2013
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    We were fairly restricted because I'm a teacher so it wanted to be in the school holidays. We got engaged in February and wanted to get married soon. We thought that the coming summer was too soon, then looked at the Christmas holidays but everywhere was already all booked, so the next option was Easter. We wanted it to be a Saturday so people could come without taking time off work. The first Saturday of the Easter holidays next year is Easter Saturday and you can't get married in a church that day. So the following Saturday is the 6th of April and it just so happens that the 6th of the month (though not April) is the day we first met, and every month we say "happy x months!" so we'll be getting married on 44 months.

    So really it was a process of elimination. If I wasn't a teacher, though, and we could do it any old time, I might have gone for September or October this year.

    March is probably a nice time to get married - just think, this year and last year March was glorious! Then look at May (and June so far) - an absolute washout! You just can't predict.

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  • kharv
    Beginner March 2012
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    We were going to Australia on honeymoon so wanted to go in our spring or Autumn.

    The date we chose was the only date the venue had available for 2012 that was in spring or autumn and didn't clash with prior engagements.

    We had the 24th March this year and the weather was glorious. I wasn't expecting it though and was prepared for downpours.

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  • *JLS*
    Beginner July 2012
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    We wanted to try and have our wedding on the same date as we got together, but I would of had to wait for another year to get it bang on! Turns out that we will be getting married on our ten year and one day anniversary ?

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  • Jalapeno
    Beginner October 2012
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    We chose it because it was available! It matched with the church and the venues availability. Nothing special has happened and the day means nothing to any of us except from this year it will now always be OUR Anniversary. (and I'll never forget my MOH birthday the next day!)

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  • 50's pin up bride
    Beginner July 2012
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    I'm a teacher, and we knew we wanted a fortnight off after the wedding (not necessarily to GO anywhere on honeymoon for the whole fortnight, but to spend time together, send thank you cards, look at photos etc) so that narrowed it down to Christmas (a no-go), Easter hols, or Summer hols. I decided Easter would be too hectic as my whole holiday would be used up with the wedding and I wouldn't be able to fully relax on honeymoon knowing how much work I'd be coming back to - so Summer hols it was.

    We have tickets to the Olympics, so had to work round that; I wanted at least a full week free at the end of Summer to get into school to prepare things, so that left us with 2 Saturdays to choose from. We went for the 21st July in the end, because my theory of 'get married in August and get all my school work out the way first' would NEVER have worked - I'd have spent the whole time doing wedding related stuff! This way, we get married first Saturday of the holidays, have a fortnight to utterly relax, then I have 4 weeks to sort out what I need to without rushing or panicking.

    It's also just under a year since we got engaged, so was about perfect for planning. Personally I'd have loved an Autumn wedding, but it just wasn't to be!

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  • unexpectedpenny
    Beginner January 2013
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    We wanted it to be in winter so we went for the day inbetween our birthdays!

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  • weemee
    Beginner July 2012
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    50's pinup Bride-

    I'm a teacher too. the only logical move was to have a Summer wedding. it's meant that it had to be sorted in 11 months tho - got engaged last August, but I think I would have died from excitment if I'd've had to wait another year!

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  • mickeyandminnie
    Beginner July 2015
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    I really wanted to get married abroad until i went to Mexico in May and there were 5 weddings going on at the same time!! One of the brides got really upset and said she felt like it was battle of the brides!

    Plus my Nan and Grandad won't be able to fly a long way by then

    My H2B is keen on fixing a date in June - July but 1. its the two of the most expensive months it would appear and 2. look at the weather!

    We are going to discuss with the venue's prices for March as mentioned before Smiley smile

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  • Tizzie
    Beginner June 2012
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    We worked around our date. 29th of June. Well have been together for four years and engaged for one. Every year on our 'anniversary' we went to London as our annual holliday so we've always done something special. Our date means a lot to us. We're going on honeymoon to New York for 4 days, at the end of September. We never got to pick dates as it was a present from my uncle (not complaining though!!) I'm quite glad we have the break in between to look at photos and do thank you cards. Plus it lets us look forward to our honeymoon separately.

    If dates don't meant a lot to you then availability/time of year is a good way to pick a date. It also gives you a brand new date to have all to yourselves!!

    S x

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  • cford09
    Beginner March 2013
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    Ours wasn't picked for any sentimental reason, we just started looking about 18 months ahead of when we got engaged to give us time to save and plan and it took us to spring 2013 which was great as I didn't want it to be too hot!

    We were looking around lots of venues and one of them had an amazing package running from Jan-March so we went for March as it (should) be slightly warmer and it's the month both our parents got married.

    When it came to date, we wanted a Saturday and the dates they have available were 9th, 16th and 23rd. I wanted the 23rd because I thought it had a nice ring to it but OH has a weird thing about odd numbers so we had to go for the 16th!

    Practicality and budget ruled over sentiment for us!

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  • *gnashers*
    Beginner October 2013
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    We haven't set a date, as we are already constrained by a number of weddings next year, which OH will be a significant part of.

    Ideally we are looking at may or September next year (annoyingly the most expensive!) but we will choose depending venue, church etc.

    We were thinking of getting married a year to the day that we got engaged but that's a Sunday, which OH isn't sure of. But we'll see what goes with the venues we look at and like.

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  • anothermrsjones
    Beginner July 2012
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    We had to choose the summer so as not to conflict with the rugby season haha. If we had gone for any weekend in season he would have half of his guestlist drop out due to "team commitments". I think it's quite nice as we are both winter babies so gives us something to celebrate in *fingers crossed* good weather. We are getting married in Wales though so rain is quite possible at any point in the year

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  • kyanya
    Beginner June 2013
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    I'm in exactly the same boat as you at the moment - not sure how to pick a date and wanting the nicest possible weather on whatever date we do pick.

    We know we want next year though, and don't want it to be cold as I don't like cold weather - I'd much prefer to be sweltering than shivering! So we've asked our potential venue to give us a list of available Fridays and Saturdays from 1st May - 30th September next year, and we're taking this with us to our meeting with the vicar on Saturday, so hopefully there'll be an available date in both of their diaries and we'll have our date!

    Our venue doesn't charge any differently depending on the time of year though, so that's why we can go for the traditional summer months. However, I'm all too aware that the nicest weather we've had in the past year or so has been in March and September/October, but I'm not sure this is enough to sway me. OH likes the idea of May next year, so I was keeping an eye on the weather in May just gone - 3 overcast or raining weekends where coats were needed, 1 blazing sunshine where I got sunburnt in my summer dress. So basically the weather is so changeable that I think it's best to plan for a dull, cool, possibly wet day whenever you choose and if you get anything better it's a massive plus ?

    Just thought I'd add that our anniversary is the beginning of October, 1 day after my birthday, so we don't want to use this date as we never find the time to properly celebrate both anyway, and the day we got engaged was 2 days before Xmas so don't want to use this as we don't want a winter wedding. So there's no meaningful dates for us to use anyway, but I'm hoping we'll make a new date special to us ?

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  • *Funky*
    Beginner January 2001
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    We booked the first weekend of September 2013 we wanted September as it is slightly cheaper then peak summer seasons and cheaper to honeymoon too (and kids should be back at school so hopefully wont have to put up with them lol).

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  • S
    Beginner August 2013
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    I chose August, because my stepfather told me he was fishing in the summer! And the 10th, because I wanted a Saturday as I work evenings, and my work friends would be unable to come. Also, my sister had to choose August last year, and was married later in the month. So, mine was because of a fishing tournament Smiley tongue

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  • SuperDuff
    Beginner November 2013
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    Friends of mine got married in February, and it was a little cold, but the weather was nice. Another friend got married on 15th March and the weather was dry but windy, and my manager got married on 19th March and it was beautiful. I don't think it makes too much difference.

    Personally, we're having an autumn wedding (I think autumn is a beautiful time of year anyway), and it allows us to save up enough money. Originally we were looking at marrying on the Friday, and it needed to be a half term because my sister is a teacher, but we bumped it to Saturday anyway.

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  • tinks269
    Beginner February 2011
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    We got married on the 26th Feb it was half term and as a teacher i wanted it to be in some sort of holiday so that i had the week off before to sort stuff out if there was anything to sort out (due to my OCD there wasnt and i had a lovely relaxing week). We got engaged at the beginning of Dec knew that we didnt want a summer wedding (not really sure why just not what we wanted) also didnt want a Christmas do (Mr T's sister was married around Christmas and didnt want ours compared to hers) so we opted for Feb half term giving us just over a year to plan which was perfect. Was slightly worried as the year before our wedding the date was during the snow storms that seemed to bring the whole of the UK to a stand still! our day started out with rain, which put a dampner on waking up on the morning, but it soon cleared up. Once you have found your venue you may find that the massive choice of dates you have at the moment is cut down as others have already booked certain days etc.

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  • K
    Beginner April 2013
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    Also a teacher...

    But we specifically didn't want a summer wedding: more expensive and also if it's too hot my OH will really struggle with the heat in his suit. (he struggles with being too hot alot! Especially under pressure!) so we went with Easter, I wanted to have a week before the wedding to finalise things and a week after to settle back down after the day! We will then save our honeymoon til summer!

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  • Seaweed
    Beginner July 2012
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    We met in Greece on the 7th July so we are getting married in Greece on the 7th July! LOL That simple hahahaha I wouldnt worry about the weather, Just choose a date and work the rest around it. If its a winter wedding then have it inside and no one will even notice the rain!

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    Beginner August 2012
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    We booked quite late so we got a bank holiday (scotland) weekend and booked in York so we got a bank holiday when everyone can get time off work in the school holidays and travel down but not when everyone else is on holiday (and when I assumed prices might go up)! Worked out well :-)

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  • JennyWren87
    Beginner May 2013
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    We were given a few dates that were available, we chose 4th May as it's a bank holiday on the monday. Most of our guests live in England (as do I), and we are getting married in Northern Ireland (where im from), so guests shouldnt feel like they have to rush home if they have an extra day off! Also, the 4th may is star wars day! Having our anniversary each year on star wars day will be kinda cool Smiley smile

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    Beginner August 2012
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    My birthday! Good choice :-)

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    Beginner April 2011
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    The one thing that you actually can't do anything about is the weather!! Like others have said, there's a chance it could rain on any day of the year, so no matter if you plan a winter, spring, summer or autumn wedding, the weather will only do what it's going to do on that day when it gets there!!

    The only advice i would give, is that you choose a venue that has adequate space indoors & adequate photo opportunities indoors. That way, if the weather is wet/cold/snowy, you're still going to get plenty of good pics!

    If the 14th March means something to you, then go for it! It's your special day and it's totally up to you when you have it. We got engaged August 2010, and decided to get on with the planning straight away to get married the following year (2011). We decided we didn't want a winter wedding or a mid summer wedding so it left april/may or sept/oct. It's my 2nd marriage, the first time i got married in september, so we decided to avoid then. Which only left April or May. My now husband wanted Sat 28th May (2011), which i agreed to, but did say we should have a couple of other dates in mind in case either the venue we wanted or the registrar were already booked up for 28th May. The other dates we chose were Sat 16th April & Sat 30th April (both 2011). We were looking for school holidays or bank hols! Anyway, the Saturday 16th April 2011 was the only date out of the 3 that both the venue and registrar were available, so that was our date picked for us!!

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  • O
    Beginner September 2013
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    We knew we wanted September because we have plans to go to Singapore grand prix for our honeymoon. It had to be in the first 2 weeks and not a Saturday so we just went with the dates our venue had available.

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  • Puddycat
    Beginner December 2012
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    MY OH is a Firefighter and we wanted a Saturday that his entire crew would be off plus not working on the Sunday. Plus his brother is restricted to school holidays. That gave us 3 Saturdays throughout the year. February - too soon, August bank holiday weekend - expensive & December 29th - our wedding day........ Plus I wanted a winter wedding as it is not the norm!!

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