Menfolk - what are you wearing?

I'll be leaving my OH to it, but he's said he'd like to wear a charcoal coloured suit, white shirt, blue waistcoat and cravat and an orange buttonhole (to match our colour scheme or blue and orange). But I'll leave him to take our lad and anyone else who he chooses to have (however many best men, ushers or anything else as he chooses) with him to get their suits - as long as its not too daft and fits with the colour scheme then I don't really mind

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I have a perfectly good suit in the cupboard, I'm still trying to find an ivory shirt in my size, all the men in the bridal party will have matching hunter green ties, and I'll give my shoes a polish in the morning.

More practicality rather than choice as there doesn't seem to be money in the budget to splash out on another suit for me, which will hardly ever be worn just like the other suit I have.

But then again, my b2b isn't likely to dictate to me what I have to wear at any time let alone at our wedding so I didn't necessarily expect to be told any different. Very rarely does anyone comment "doesn't the groom look nice" anyway, and the comments that often are heard are more down to physical attributes than the suit.

I certainly won't be undertaking any 'male grooming' out of the normal routine beforehand either.

I went with OH but he picked his suit. He's got a grey suit, black waistcoat and white shirt with black trim, and a grey tie. He looks very dapper in it! He asked my opinion, but ultimately it was his choice. He's lucky, he can wear his suit again but I couldn't really rock up to work in a wedding dress, more's the pity.

Same with my OH, he wears suits every day for work....but as I work from home maybe I could rock my wedding dress again ?

Do it! Why not, might be a bit hot but a small price to pay. As I'm a nurse, I think my patients might have something to say about it!

We decided jointly that he'd be in navy blue, as it's our colour scheme.

We had agreed to get a suit made for him whilst we were visiting family in Malaysia (tailoring costs are hugely cheaper over there) but just ran out of time/impetus. So it was decided that we would hire, as he didn't want to use a cheaper, more 'everyday' suit and equally he didn't want to pay big bucks for a 'wedding' suit he'd never wear again. (I felt a little guilty as I spent a lot on my dress... but on the other hand I would have hired my dress IF that option was as readily available as men's suit hire... and I did buy a second-hand dress anyway.)

Admittedly going for a morning suit was more my decision than his... I felt that it would suit the formal tone of our day more (which was set equally by both of us) and if he didn't want to wear an 'everyday' suit it seemed logical to me that he should go for a morning suit. He now has come round (seriously, he has) and thinks this was the best way to go anyway especially as we have included best man, dads and brothers all in the same suit (H2B has a different cravat).

To be perfectly honest I will be choosing OH's suit! *Distant sound of hitcher's gasp in disgust!* OH really wouldn't have a clue what to get and with my dress being unusual not every colour would match, and we can't have our photos looking silly now can we [

OH is having a bespoke suit, he is choosing the colour.

As a tradition skinhead (there are different sorts?) there are tick boxes that the suit has to have :- ticket pocket, 3 buttons, single back vent, narrow lapels, working cuffs and MUST be tonic/two tone mohair fabric, , , ,

So not true, I worked at a wedding yesterday and there were loads of people commenting on how good the groom looked - so good he made his sister cry when she first saw him lol!!

*shrug* may happen occasionally but I'm sure it's still quite rare.

It'll be my brother everyone will comment on at my wedding... he's a model, the rest of us mere mortals (including my groom) won't stand a chance LOL!

We comment on the groom's appearance as often as we comment on the bride's where I work... maybe we're strange lol - might be partly to do with us trying to guess whether it's suit, morning suit or kilt they've opted for too! ?

We'll be hiring OH's suit. Choice of what he has is down to him. The only thing I'm getting involved in is the cravat colour.

My OH will be choosing his suit... He has already chosen the style, we just need to figure out the colour scheme so we can go ahead and buy them! He'll be wearing it so he wants to choose the colour, which I appreciate but its been 8 months and he still cant find a colour he likes! Who knew men could be just as particular as us women!? lol

The groom stands there for ages before the bride walks in - I'm sure people must comment on how he looks.

I usually do, but then I think men look lovely in a suit, especially at weddings. I said it already when I saw our Best Man and my OH in their suits.

OH is wearing this bad boy -

https://www.jackbunneys.co.uk/Half_Tail_Harrogate.htm

in blue - with an ivory patterned tie

My dad, his dad and best man wearing this -

https://www.jackbunneys.co.uk/worcester.htm

With matching tie to OH and waistcoat to match the tie

not getting involved!!! Mr Flow has been asked of hes a gay sometimes as he dressily quite snappily all on his own (im so proud lol) so i have no worries. He knows the colour scheme, hes perfectly capable of picking his own suit lol

I don't plan to be. I'll probably wander round talking to the guests, until it's time for me to scoot off for my quick interview, then I'll continue until I get the nod from the registrar that my b2b is ready, the registrar will introduce him/herself and any notices (such as our 'remember to put your mobile phones and children on silent'), the BM and I will take our positions, then Roy will hit "Play" on the laptop and our music will start, then my b2b will make her grand entrance and shuffle up to the front where I'll be waiting for her.

As she's only got to come down from upstairs in the hotel where she's getting ready, and will quite possibly be in the little side room being interviewed in the 20 minutes or so before the ceremony begins, then she shouldn't be late as many brides seem to feel they need to.

I 'guided' my OH. My OH doesn't normally wear a suit (except for Funerals and job interviews), he's a very casual dresser, wearing jeans, t-shirts and trainers to work, so he did feel a bit out of his depth dealing with a formal suit hire and the choices etc. He's also a bit lazy about "admin" type things and he would never have made the appointment if I hadn't done it for him.

As he's tall, along with my Dad, his Best Man and Usher, I suggested something like the Prince Edward style jacket - slightly longer in the back, but certainly not tails. I thought they would all be able to carry off that style nicely.

He agreed after trying one on, and he choose the black Prince Edward (I left the colour up to him). I also tracked down a claret waistcote for him to look at in two styles - swirly or diamond pattern. I left the choise to him again, and he picked the diamond. He put forward Gold as the colour for the BM, Usher and my Dad himself.

So, he picked, but I guided him there, otherwise it would have been a reebok t-shirt and cargo pants!

Never actually answered the OP!!

My H actually chose our colour scheme (purple and navy) by deciding he wanted to wear the pride of Scotland tartan for his kilt, ok I had to chase him to make sure he got one hired etc but he made the choice 100% by himself

Oh decided our colour scheme really, adamant he wanted black full-on morning suit with top hat and tails with royal blue waistcoat etc. I have sort of talked him down from the top hat as it seems too formal for our day. He said he had one once as an usher and just mainly carried all day... but that was at a 30grand wedding in a massive church, so I am worried it will look weird at our modernised barn! We will look together but he will prob choose by himself in the end, so who knows what he will end up with!

On a slightly different note, when is the usual amount of time before a wedding date for the guys to start choosing and trying on for hire suits?

I have been buried under a mountain of wedding suits for two weeks now and have had very little chance to check out Hitched and I nearly missed this thread! (It is ridiculously busy at the moment, SOOOooo many wedding suits to get ready!)

Well you have all probably seen my out fit but hey! why not flash it again.

That's what I am wearing. You can read all the details about it here:

So I guess it is no surprise that I picked something very different to the norm. ?

On the subject of wedding suits generally I 'really' wish that guys would take more of an interest, many Grooms (not all) that I meet are very reliant on their OH to help them choose their wedding suits. I know it is difficult for the Groom, as he does not know any details in regards to the dress and therefor is not quite sure if he is wearing the right thing or not but I think most Grooms are generally apathetic to towards choosing their wedding suit.

Most of my customers are a little more interested than most but I would love to see more Grooms being creative with their wedding suits. Whenever I pick up a wedding magazine (trade or retail) the suits are all the same, it is just a little boring.

LoveSka: where is your OH getting his suit? JumpTheGun in Brighton has some really good suits, they may even offer a Made To Measure service. I like going there for my Fred Perrys ?

When i read the title i was convinced the smut police would be in hear!! ?

i had no say as to what OH would wear, he went with his BM to choose. he did ask what colour the BM were wearing and when i showed his the material sample asked if he could have it! he really didnt want to wear a tie (he wears jeans and t-shirts for work and in all the years i have know him, i think i have seen him wear a tie twice!) he ended up with a gorgeous suit and waistcoat and purple cravat that matched the bmaids! here is a flash of him with his fellow men folk!

My OH is going to go suit shopping with his mum...she's keeping herself out of the planning side of things as a) I told her I probably won't listen to any of her ideas, and b) her own daughter became quite bridezilla-ish about her groom's mum knowing anything at all about the wedding and she feels like she should mind her business (to be clear, I have tried to include her in my choices, I'm just not interested in her trying to force her ideas on me, I'd love for her to see me in my dress before the wedding but she's chosen not to)

We decided that asking her to go to help him with his suit would be a lovely thing for them to do together, and it means she can help her little boy out, he's a complete mummy's boy and she loves to spoil him! He chose the colour scheme so can't really go wrong there - the only thing I've told him not to go for is a brown suit - it wouldn't work with our colours anyway but I just don't like the look of them at weddings (sorry if anyone has brown suits, it's just personal preference!)

OH has also said that if they're alone in the suit shop she'll probably pay for all the suits - I've told him under no circumstances to let her, they paid for his sister's entire wedding and need a break!

My husband and the ushers wore spectacular ties with their suits and all had compliments throughout the day on how fantastic they looked. Even had some comments on here when I flashed our wedding pics.

Anyway, we decided between the two of us that the suits would be grey with a black shirt and the ties hubby had picked out. We didn't have everyone in the same grey suits though. Most of the ushers wore a grey suit they already had, but H's and my brother's suits were both new.

High Five!! lol

It's a gorgeous tartan, H didn't like any family tartans so he went with the pride of Scotland instead (and meant I could have purple in my colour scheme - favourite colour yay!!)

My OH will be in a kilt as well and my only influence has been to ensure that as he doesn't have a family tartan that he could use so I didn't want his kilt to clash with my dress? Luckily he has chosen a lovely colour and will be able to get a cravat to match my dress!!

My latest thought is that i'm wearing a black suit in the style that I wear to work, but with a nice waistcoat and tie to make it look more formal. I know it's not a very popular wedding suit colour in the UK but i've worn a black suit for every formal event i've been to, so maybe it would feel weird wearing another colour to the most important formal event yet, my wedding. OH is having no input at all, she hates this but I want to choose what i'm wearing by myself with no input from her, just like she's doing with her dress. I have also refused to hire a suit, which she also hates but I feel strongly about wearing a suit that is mine and not one that has been worn by hundreds of other men that I can't give into her there either.

Hopefully she trusts me enough to know that I want her to like the way I look on the day and i'm not going to turn up dressed in a chicken costume.

I think that's the big difference here - most guys have a suit for special occasions tucked away in the back of the wardrobe which, if it still fits, is perfectly acceptable unless decided otherwise for their wedding, whereas not many ladies will not have the big white meringue dress (or equivalent) hanging around.

Same here! He's got a white suit, a silver suit and all manner of fancy shoes. He's actually a very manly man, but does have a bizarre dress sense. That's one of the things I love about him though, that he doesn't care what people think! He's always wanted a pale blue suit and this is what he fancies for our wedding. We're getting married abroad and one of the reasons we're doing that is that he didn't want to be in a stuffy morning suit and have to conform to convention. He also wants his men (including the dads!) in white suits, but I'm trying to talk him out of that as my dress is diamond white and I don't think they'll go. I've told him about this concern, so I'll probably help him pick the mens suits. I've seen pale blue suits in Debenhams etc, so will probably end up going with him to buy that too.