Not Looking Forward To The Morning Of

I will be incredibly bossy and bridezilla-ey on the morning of my wedding. I can't wait!!

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OP why don't you stay with your OH if it means you'll be happier and more relaxed? Or stay on your own and tell your sisters to get ready elsewhere ?

I just hope upon hope that I sleep the night before else I will feel like *** and on top of the sicky nervous/slightly hyperactive feeling I will be having I don't think it's a good mix! I am however looking forward to getting ready with my best friend and my eldest niece and then seeing my nieces all looking pretty in their dresses and my son all dressed up!

I think that I will be chilled out/excited and my Mum will go on at me to calm down.

She has a vision of how the morning of the wedding will be and I have a feeling it's different to mine...

If you want to stay with your OH the night before, you should do it! I have read a few reports recently where the couple have stayed together, I think its quite a nice idea, you would be able to share a bit of that excitement. I will be staying with my friends/BMs because i love a girly sleep over but if its something youre dreading, just dont do it, especially if your sisters will just stress you out even more.

I know exactly how you feel! I just want to stay with OH at our house and get a good nights sleep in my own bed!

But instead I'll be at mum's, sleeping in my brothers bed (he won't be in it!) with everyone flapping in the smallest house in the world and no BM to help me as she is travelling to the venue in her own car as she will have a small baby and doesn't want it to go in the minibus :-(

I know this is a massive shock horror from a bride to be but sometimes, I feel like I'm dreading the whole day. Not seeing OH the day before, everyone staring at me and having to be on my best behaviour, having to be nice to people I don't like, hardly seeing OH as we are too busy mingling, being tired and just wanting to go back to the hotel at 8pm and sleeeeeeeeeeeeep!

But then I remember I'll have a husband afterwards that I get to keep for ever and ever :-)

Ahh Barry I'm sorry to hear that. I think you'll probably find that your family buck their ideas up a bit that close to the day though.

What are your plans? Who will be with you the night before and on the morning?

I'm worried about it too as I stress about things so much already, I doubt I will get any sleep the night before and therefore will be a right mardy mare on the day!!

There will be so many people faffing around it will do my head in, and the worst thing is that it's all going to be caught on video camera!! ?

I will be staying on my own the night before and mum will drive us to the venue to get ready. That is exactly how I want it, nobody bothering me!

Im actually quite looking forward to the night before..there be a period of around an hour when im on my own, i be able to collect my thoughts!

The night before i have my good good friend staying with me, one BM has 2 young kids so is stayig at home, one is travelling back from London on the morning of the wedding (dont get me started on that one!) and the other is Mr Fs little sister, we arnt close enough for her to stay over without anyone else there lol

Luckily all BMs are coming to mine on the Saturday at 920am and mummy f is joining us at around 11am ..they are all pretty calm people so imagine itl be chilled and girly!!

Any tips from OMs on how to have a chilled morning without stress from MOB?

I was thinking the same thing last night! I think it will be pretty stressful. And last night I spoke to one of my BMs - she has 2 small kids so won't stay with me, but will come round to get ready in the morning; but then she said her hubby and 2 boys will come over later on so she can get the boys ready - I don't want her hubby and 2 small kids in the way!!! I am going to have to tell her that she'll have to go back to them if her hubby needs help getting them ready. I would love to have a child free wedding, but my OH disagrees; but I at least want a child free morning!

My biggest worry is crying.... I cry for crying sake... so will probably wake up with big puffy red eyes... My BM are getting hair and make up done either at salon or home, and then coming to mine to get there dresses etc on. Just seemed the simpler way as everyone prefers to get ready in a certain way and I want them to be comfortable!

MY OH and I are staying together the night before and getting ready together. However he has had a firm warning that if he uses all the hot water (like he always does) the registra will be waiting for us because i wont be leaving for the reception until I have had a hot shower!!! LOL. I have no idea how he manages it every single time????

I stayed in my own house, in my own bed, on my own (just with my daughter) the night before my wedding. Got up, showered, picked my bridemaids up and then drove to the venue to get ready.

Lovely and calm!

Red Baroness, if it will make you feel better then there is no reason why you can't spend the night with your OH - I am! In the morning I will kick him out to get ready with his brother when my BM arrive but I'm glad I don't have to spend the night without him.

Is there anyway you could stay with Mr RB the night before? Or could you ask another close friend or family member to be there who can keep you sane?

I think I'm looking forward to the morning but not sure how it's all going to pan out at the moment. I think it will be fun regardless!

The main thing that worrys me is sleeping as if I have anything on my mind I dont sleep so this really concerns me then I get really moody when I am tired. Also we dont know yet if we can set the room up the night before yet so if we cant thats another thing I will be stressing about.

I am lucky it will just be me and my mum on the morning plus the haridresser and makeup lady. My mums OH will be there but will stay out the way. My bridesmaids are little and dont live over here so they wont be coming over till the morning of the wedding

I feel the same as you RB. The night before I will have a friend stay with me at the hotel and OH mum but I dont think it will be as I always imagined. Also Im not close to my dad and reading some peoples reports gets me very jelous of the closeness of some father/daughter relationships. Sad i know!

I'm quite worried about not being able to sleep the night before. I get on really well with my family, so staying at theirs won't be an issue for me, but if I can't sleep or if my sister (CBM) keeps me awak talking, I will probably have to kill her?

On the morning the plan was to have a mobile hairdresser come in and do all BMs hair (my cousin is doing mines) but, as my cousin got married in January, she advised me to send em out to a hairdresser. She said on the morning of hers she was nervous, trying to get ready and her BMs kept chatting excitedly, asking her questions etc (dont get me wrong its good they were excited - but they were stressing her out) so she was glad when they all went to hairdresser and left her in peace and give her time to calm herself and get ready for a few hours.

This is what I'm doing, they are being carted off at 9am to the hairdresser, so I will be alone with mum n dad and my cousin doing my hair and make up, so hopefully will be nice and chilled! x

I don't much fancy having a night away from my OH. I never sleep as well and I don't sleep when I'm nervous and I'm betting I will be. The morning I think will be a bit hectic so that should take my mind off the nerves. I have 8 bridesmaids as well so there will too much going on and hopefully I'll be getting excited rather than sick...

If it was worrying me too much I would definitely stay with him though. He quite likes the tradition of it though. I say do what makes u feel better. It's only superstition that says you shouldn't spend the night together anyway!! No reason why you couldn't get ready together either if it helps calm you down

Current plan is to stay at my parents', with both my sisters, then drive over to the venue in the morning to get ready. I can just imagine how it would go down if I told them I wasn't staying there the night before.

We'll all be getting ready in one room, with a bathroom, at the venue. They're all already fussing beyond belief. About how they're going to have their hair (my mother booked in my sister for a hair trial on the morning on my hen, without me knowing, and tells me after it's booked that I can go along if I want to!). About their nails, about whether they're standing all the way through the ceremony, when/if they sit down (for goodness sake, the registrar will prompt them!). My younger sister often throws a proper strop (well tantrum actually) when people nag her to be ready on time, as she is ALWAYS late.

I feel like there won't be anyone there that truely has my back (apart from my Dad, when he eventually gets there). I'm not close to either of my sisters, but was obliged to have them as bridesmaids.

Stay with him before it and what about having your couple wedding shots before the ceremony, that's what we're doing will help calm nerves and give us some private time.

With regards to flapping, I find the best thing is to respond with indifference. I had a couple of instances with this with my bridesmaids - 'how shall we walk down the aisle, how fast, when do we sit down' etc. I responded to every one with 'I wouldn't worry - the registrar tells you everything on the day'.

The more calm you are, the less chance their flapping turns into hysteria.

With regards to the night before, I would have some wine then head up quite early saying you want a bath and an early night. Surely no one can begrudge a bride that, the night before her wedding?

I would also do a bit of a timetable as to when you need to be out the door, when your sisters hair and makeup should be done by, when they should be getting in their dresses. If they have a habit of being late, this should at least lessen that a bit?

Good idea. I'll do that. My mum is nagging me for all these details anyway at the moment, but I'm not in a position to know just yet. I've not had my own hair trial yet. I keep telling her to calm down, but she seems to think I'm behind on everything and is fussing.

I'm usually the one that keeps everyone else calm and when I went to my friend's wedding as BM she made sure I was there nice and early to help her stay serene

I just hope that my BM's will be able to do the same for me. A lot of my friend's are staying in the same hotel as me which is nearby the venue so we will be able to have a good catch up the night before. The bridesmaids will have to be at the venue for 9.30 and I then have to move to the venue at about 10.30am so I will have hopefully had an hour to sort myself out.

I'm not looking forward to it much either! Pretty sure I won't sleep the night before because never can/do when I'm excited about something...christ sometimes I can't sleep if I've had a productive planning day and I'm buzzing about ideas so on the eve of my wedding day...no chance!

I'm then not looking forward to the morning because my MOH, who I thought would be with me the entire day before my wedding, now has to travel a 4 hour drive down to me on the morning of my wedding, I literally will not relax until she gets here!

Know I'm going to be a total bridezilla on the morning of my wedding lol....my poor mum, brother and BMs! lol

I was thinking about this the other day, my bm's are all really calm, laid back people but my mum is another story!!! I'm staying at our villa with my bm's the night before so they'll be there in the morning when we start to get ready, I think I'm just going to tell my mum to arrive a bit later so that she's not there all day whilst we get ready. She is getting her hair and makeup done by the same ladies as us, but i'll just ask them to do her second to last before me. I love her to pieces but she will flap around and I need a few hours to chill and relax before she arrives!