So I've been pretty busy really and only just got around to reading the Saturday paper, but when I did, I was slightly taken aback by this:
"What if single parenting is more harmonious, more loving and more successful than the conventional model? What if two-parent families are a bit of a lie, a shop front for what is in effect single parenting?"
http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2009/jun/13/family-divorce?commentpage=1
I could not agree more that 'staying together for the sake of the children' is A Bad Thing - as someone whose life improved immeasurably when my parents divorced, but when she goes off into saying that maybe society is evolving into a new, better style of one parent families with improved relationships between parents and kids, well, we lost each other well and truly at that point. Some of her assumptions are fairly breathtaking, including the one that the father in effect disappears after a divorce.
As for "what if it's wiser not to wait for Mr Right, but to have a child on your own?" well, in all honesty, I couldn't imagine choosing for the outset to do the sleepness nights, discipline, tough decisions and endless nappies by myself - although I am well aware of women who have - my MIL being one of them.The author has conveniently forgotten that her own kids were past the endless attention/waking at night/nappies stage before she and her husband divorced.
So, are single parent families 'better'? Should we all be striving to have kids alone? Discuss...