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fancyfree
Beginner April 2010

Why our wedding is not the most important thing in our lives anymore

fancyfree, 20 January, 2010 at 15:58

Posted on Planning 121

As you may know, me and H2B have been having a tough time of it - with having to move 5 weeks before the wedding and H2B's recent car accident (in which the person causing the accident drove off). We looked towards the wedding as a fixed, happy point to work towards. Yesterday, my H2B had an...

As you may know, me and H2B have been having a tough time of it - with having to move 5 weeks before the wedding and H2B's recent car accident (in which the person causing the accident drove off). We looked towards the wedding as a fixed, happy point to work towards.

Yesterday, my H2B had an ultrasound scan and was diagnosed with testicular cancer. Today he saw the consultant, tomorrow he has a full body CT scan and bloods to see how far progressed it is and on Friday he will be undergoing surgery to remove his testicle. The tumor will then be biopsed and following that there may be reason for chemotherapy or radiotherapy. Early indications are that as bad as this news is, it is the best we could have hoped for. It doesn't appear to have spread to his liver, other testicle or lymphnodes and his chest X-ray showed that his lungs are clear.

We intend to proceed with the wedding as planned, but of course we don't know what shape his treatment will take. Now we have his operation date for Friday, I feel I can come here and tell you all. You've been helpful and practical so far, and I may need your advice in the coming weeks.

I know this news might leave you lost for words, it did me. I just love my H2B so much, and we're determined to get married and be stronger for it all. In sickness and in health, eh?

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Hello Brides and Brides to Be!

I expect there's a whole new crew here now, but I just wanted to update you all to let you know that my husband (yay!) has just had his ONE YEAR ALL CLEAR.

We are extremely happy, and I wanted to say again how wonderful the hitched girlies were and I won't forget your kindness.

I'd also like to take the opportunity to say hello to all the new brides-to-be and ask them to get their fiancés to check their balls every month. Testicular cancer mainly happens to young men (16-40) and you just don't know that you're ill. My H2B's lump was painful which is why he noticed, but they USUALLY ARE NOT painful. Check, and make sure they check regularly so that they know what is normal and what is changing.

If you want to have a look at my wedding report, it's still here. Most emotional day of our lives, and long may our marriage continue!

Best of luck with your planning and forthcoming weddings.

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  • looneysh
    Beginner May 2012
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    Im so glad to hear your good news after the difficult time you and your husband have been through recently. There's not enough if these "light at the end of the tunnel" storys . I've lost 5 family members to cancer including my dad in last 2 years ! I hope u and your husband spend a long and happy life together .

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  • grace85
    Beginner February 2011
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    I remember this being one of the first threads i read on here. It's so nice to here that your husband is doing well and is all clear.

    I'm off to re-read your wedding report now.

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  • *Nursey*
    Beginner May 2012
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    I never knew you during your planning but still I'm glad you've got good news. Congratulations on your year anniversary and to your hubby for his 1 year mark. Wishing you all the best for the future x

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  • TheNinjaPigeon
    Beginner January 2011
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    Congratulations on the one year all clear! xxx

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  • Browny
    Beginner June 2011
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    Congratulations on the all clear! Good luck for the future xxx

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  • Sherrie H
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    Sherrie H ·
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    Fantastic news!

    Here's to continued good news xxx

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  • D
    Beginner October 2010
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    Fancyfree thats brillent news. I'm with Sherrie heres to continued good news

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  • S
    Beginner June 2011
    SouthB2B ·
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    I wasn't around during your planning but just wanted to say congratulations, this is great news x

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  • bec84
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    bec84 ·
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    Thats Fantastic News, really lovely to hear. Best of luck for the future x x x

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  • CupcakeQueen
    Beginner January 2011
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    This is wonderful wonderful news! I am going to read you report again as your wedding was gorgeous!

    All the best xxxx

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  • teeheeyoucrazyguys!
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    Lovely to hear from you!!!!! great news, love to you both xx

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  • Kooks
    Beginner September 2011
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    That's fantastic news! Wishing you lots more future happiness x

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  • B
    Beginner July 2010
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    That's fantastic news FF, all the best to both of you.

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  • bluewater
    Beginner August 2009
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    That's amazing news fancyfree - so happy to hear he has had the one year all clear.

    wishing you both many years of happiness xxx

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  • Spangler
    Beginner September 2010
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    Fantastic news! Here is to a wonderful marriage and continued good health for you both x

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  • Cookie Galore
    Beginner November 2009
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    What a fantastic update, lovely to hear!

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    Great news FancyFree ! ?

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  • *JLS*
    Beginner July 2012
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    Congratulations on the all clear! I remember your report as i had just started on Hitched - it is a great account of the day and it was a pleasure reading it for a second time Smiley smile Jxx

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    Wicket ·
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    That's fantastic news Fancyfree! So pleased for you x

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  • Mrs-HFA
    Beginner December 2012
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    Hi,

    You won't know me, I'm a newbie. Just wanted to say congratulations to you and your hubby on his 1st year being clear! I had a read at your wedding report, it sounds like an amazing day. I hope I'm as happy as you were on mine.

    Good luck for the future.

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