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ForTheLoveOfMrsBrown
Beginner January 2012

A message from Mr Twiga

ForTheLoveOfMrsBrown, 3 April, 2014 at 13:10

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"I’m sad to share the very upsetting news that Twiga passed away on Saturday morning following a two and a half year battle with cancer. She was with the people she loved most in the world: her husband, her dad and her dogs. She was a wonderfully kind and joyous person who embraced life and...

"I’m sad to share the very upsetting news that Twiga passed away on Saturday morning following a two and a half year battle with cancer. She was with the people she loved most in the world: her husband, her dad and her dogs.

She was a wonderfully kind and joyous person who embraced life and was determined to live each day to the full. She fitted more into her 28 years on this earth than many will in a lifetime and touched so many people in different ways, including many of you on here. Her passing so young is just a cruel and devastating waste. She leaves behind family and friends whose lives will never be whole ever again.

She was private about her illness much of the time but this is a vital opportunity to remind you all of the importance of cancer screening. Her death may well have been preventable had she been screened earlier and I know that she felt very strongly that her case should be held up as an example to highlight that nothing concerned with health is worth delaying for any reason whatsoever. Lives have been utterly shattered beyond repair and I would hate for that to happen to any of you or your loved ones.

I am sure that she has left her mark on this place like she has with all the places she visited (mainly due to her ludicrous clumsiness), and that her memory can live on here. Thank you for the kind messages you have sent me in recent days, to see how much she was loved by your community is truly a comfort.

Mr Twiga xx


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A footnote from Footlong: Over the past year, we have all been privileged to share time with Twiga. She filled our community with laughter and happiness, and not a small amount of sheer craziness. Even when her own battles were difficult, she showed compassion and kindness to those who needed it. The girl behind the giraffe was as beautiful, as funny and as vibrant in real life as she was here, and the loss to those who loved her is unimaginable. To Mr Twiga and the rest of her cherished family, I send my very best ((hug)).

In all this, there is a message that absolutely cannot be lost or ignored. However, it is not my message to give, it is Twiga’s.

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Twiga/Thu Mar ****:38
#nomakeup selfies

*sensitive, but very important*

My whole cancer journey started with my first routine smear test that I had in 2011 when I was 25. I just had a letter from the GP drop through my letterbox and went along totally carefree. Needless to say the results that came back were just awful and I had two years of treatment/operations as a result of them. I had a blissful cancer-free period last year that I shall be eternally grateful for. However as of Jan 2014 the f*cker seems to have decided to spread upwards and outwards and I will not ever be able to say I am cancer free again.

I'm not saying this for the love (please don't actually - I feel the love already and I love you all back). I'm saying this out of a sense of duty that no one should have to deal with this and the thought that there are people out there who are not showing up for smear tests and the like really upsets me. I got 'called' at 25 and it should have been much earlier. I wish I had been 'called' at 23. I wish I had been 'called' at 19. Fark, I wish I had a friggin smear test everyday. So any Otters or lurkers reading this - get off your arses now (or at least first thing tomorrow) and please PLEASE get yourself booked in for a smear. And feel your boobs too,

Right, my Otter Rock and I shall now get off our soapbox and return to the party thread.

188 replies

  • Helenia
    Beginner September 2011
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    It's taken me a while to get on here and say something, but I just wanted to add my sincerest condolences to Mr Twiga and Twiga's family. I am so sorry for your loss, and wish you lots of love and strength. We will all miss our tall Otter.

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  • Tizzie
    Beginner June 2012
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    I was in shock when I heard and I think I still am, mostly I am just really really sad. I really don't know what to say, I never got to meet twiga but I loved "knowing" her online. A funny, bright spirited person who I never really saw moan or complain. I really will miss her presence on the boards and on Facebook.

    Rip twiga, our tall otter xxx

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  • *Mini*
    Beginner January 2012
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    I've been putting off writing on here as I diddnt know what to say or how to express just how sad I feel about this beautiful lady being taken away so soon.

    we will miss you twiga. Ot will be a worse place for not having you in it.

    You will be an otter forever. X

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  • AmnesiaCustard
    Beginner June 2011
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    Dearest funny Twiga. A week without you.

    You filled our hearts with joy and laughter, and then they broke.

    Slip the surly bonds of earth and fly free, our tallest otter. X

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  • Mellow_Yellow
    Beginner May 2012
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    Such a shock to read this, I knew her days were numbered but I believed (hoped) that the number of days left was much higher.

    She was a wonderful Otter, kind and funny, and she will be sorely missed.

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  • Forever Wedding Dance
    Rockstar September 2013
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    I have been reading this from the beginning and not commented as didn't know what to say but I wanted to pay my respects. Words can't describe how terrible this is. My thoughts are with everyone for their loss of a wonderful person. Having read some of Twiga's recent posts it just shows how brave she was to the end and I can see just a little of why she was so loved.

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  • alabastamasta
    Beginner May 2014
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    Such sad news, I don't know what to say.

    My condolences to Mr Twiga and family, I hope you find the strength to get through this time

    xxx

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    Beginner May 2014
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    This is such sad news...I send my love to everyone who knew Twiga. I will ensure that whenever I am now due a smear test I go ASAP. Lots of Love

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  • alyj66
    VIP August 2014
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    Such a sad loss to the otter community and to her nearest and dearest. I send my love and best wishes to you all, there is no way to convey how very sad this all is.

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  • Italybride14
    Beginner May 2014
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    I don't post that often but feel compelled to comment. I'm so so sorry to those who loved twiga, there certainly seemed to be a few! No one should have to go through this. I hope that she hasn't died in vain and someone, somewhere, has booked their overdue smear. It's so so important and this is further evidence that 25 is far far too late.

    Rest in peace twiga x

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  • N
    Beginner October 2014
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    I am more of a lurker than poster but I just want to send my condolences to Twigas family and friends.

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  • Pittabre
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    Another one that has taken a long time to add to this post. I like others knew Twiga's diagnosis but was looking at her life with hopeful denial. Twiga was such a joy to chat with and I'm selfishly fecked off that she is gone. My condolences to her family and RL friends and to all of us on OT that have lost out with her going.

    I wish I could say something eloquent. Goodbye Twiga?

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  • jen-lou
    Super July 2016
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    Just to let you know that reducing the age of smears from 25 is being discussed in the house of commons today due to the high number of people who signed an e-petition. If I hear how it goes I'll keep you updated

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  • Childhood-Sweet<3
    Beginner July 2014
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    I am just a lurker, but I am so shocked and saddened to read this. Twiga obviously made a huge impact on Hitched, and it seems she has had fantastic support from you on her journey. Mr Twiga, I am just so sorry. xxx

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  • *Nursey*
    Beginner May 2012
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    I've held off posting here as I've not really known what to say either.

    Twiga was such a lovely and funny lady, and I'm so glad that she came into our crazy Ottery existence. I know we're all better off for knowing her. I hope she knew how much she meant to us all.

    Sending my sincere condolences to Mr Twiga and their families

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  • DrBuffles
    Beginner August 2014
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    I've just been for my first smear. I'm ashamed to say only prompted by the girls on here and the loss of Twiga.

    To anyone who is putting it off, and particularly anyone like myself, who has never been I can honestly say it was not in the slightest bit as bad I as I thought it would be - and mine wasn't 100% straightforward.

    Please, please book yours now if you haven't already.

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  • jen-lou
    Super July 2016
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    I think im extremly lucky that I was in the last bracket before they increased the age, i've had them since my late teens (i'm now 30), I did have to have them every year for a spell, but everything was fine and I am back to every 3 years.

    I agree it is not as bad as you think it's going to be, I was talking to the nurse who done mine at the beginning of the year and even she said you only seem to remember your worst one which is true. They said 2 weeks for the results, but I got mine back within a week and everything is fine. I was in and out within 5/10 minutes.

    Please don't put it off, if you are nervous, speak to your nurse (or the person carrying it out) and they will put you at ease, it is not as bad as you think it is going to be.

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  • ForTheLoveOfMrsBrown
    Beginner January 2012
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    Well done. You were one of the names I was looking out for.

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  • ATB
    Beginner August 2014
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    Well done DrB. ? I hope everyone who is going for their first one is encouraged by your experience.

    Also, anyone who has found them uncomfortable/difficult in the past - consider going to a local well woman/family planning / GUM clinic instead of your GP, as the staff there do them all day, every day and are very experienced so the whole thing may be easier for you. I go to one local to me (was on 6 monthly visits for a few years) and the nurses are very nice and efficient.

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  • *Teabag*
    Beginner June 2013
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    I also went for my overdue smear test yesterday. I normally opt to go to a sexual health clinic for the reason ATB described above but found out when I tried to book my appointment that they no longer do them ?

    The nurse I saw was great and I was in and out in less than 5 minutes. I am just sorry that it took me so long to get there but I will never ever leave it as long in the future.

    ETA: Just to clarify, I think that it is only my local sexual health clinic that is no longer offering smear tests. In other areas I'm sure that they do.

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  • Erin8
    Beginner June 2014
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    Thanks for that. They never should have increased the age originally.

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  • Icklefee
    Super May 2014
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    I've only just caught up on this having had a few weeks away from forums. So heartbreaking that lives are being needlessly wasted. I had my first smear at 17. In Scotland they were offered to any woman who was sexually active regardless of age, this is how it needs to be avoid the loss of any more young lives. Sweet dreams Twiga and much love to all those grieving for her xx

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  • The Little Jewellery Box
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    So very sad. I'm so sorry :-( my thoughts are with you and your family. Xxxx

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  • AuntieBJ
    Beginner September 2014
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    DrB, I'm so pleased you took the plunge and I have no doubt that you will give other people another bump to go and get theirs done too. I was talking to my eldest daughter about Twiga and she mentioned, with very shamed face, that the doctor had told her that she ought to have a smear test despite the fact that she is only 23. I just handed her the phone and she looked at me, dialed the number and made the appointment. Nothing was said at all about her being under 25, even though they asked her date of birth and it would therefore have been obvious.

    I am so sorry that Twiga's families - real and hitched - had to lose her, but I am certain that wherever she is now she is looking down with gladness on those who have taken the plunge because of her. Such a lasting legacy isn't granted to most of us, so may Twiga's name live on forever more in the hearts of otters, even if it is kind of weird that we may all think of her during our smear tests!

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  • Gillsy
    Beginner April 2010
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    This is so very sad. My thoughts are with Twiga's family xxxx

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  • daisymoo86
    Beginner July 2016
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    Did anyone see the piece on Daybreak this morning about smears? More women then ever are putting themselves at risk by not attending their smear appointments. I am sure all of us who have read this thread on Twiga will no longer avoid our regular smears.

    I just thought I would highlight this again, just in case there was anyone in 2 minds aboout going.

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  • broganj
    Dedicated January 2017
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    There was another girl in the news recently who was told that at 18 she was 'too young to have cancer' but has since been diagnosed with cervical cancer. I'm glad they've been discussing lowering the age for smear tests.

    http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-wales-south-east-wales-27095695

    It's so sad to read about what happened to Twiga and I would have loved to have had a chance to get to know her.

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  • *J9*
    VIP March 2014
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    I went for my slightly overdue smear - results any day now!

    If you haven't had one for a while, please make the appointment!

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  • Erin8
    Beginner June 2014
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    It's not the most pleasant thing in the world but it is so important. I went for my smear test on Tuesday and l was all done in around 10 minutes. The nurse was very professional, set me at ease and explained what she was doing.

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  • Pompey
    Beginner June 2012
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    Got mine in a hour.

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  • jen-lou
    Super July 2016
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    I thought i'd *bump* this with this update from our local news

    https://www.liverpoolecho.co.uk/news/liverpool-news/tragic-sophie-jones-dying-wish-7058752

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  • Enjayee
    Beginner April 2013
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    I'm so sad to read this. A brave, funny and just incredible woman. May she rest in peace.

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