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Rose
Awkward hotel arrangements
Rose, 17 of March of 2024 at 23:12

Hey everyone! I’m getting married in August next year and we’ve specifically chosen a venue with lots of rooms for people to stay. My mother in law to be is keen for her family to stay onsite, but it...

Chloe, yesterday at 16:24 11 438
Faye
No plus one desitination wedding?
Faye, 25 of March of 2024 at 14:04

We are planning a destination wedding in South Africa, and are only wanting close family to come. This is due to the cost as we are paying for the full 3 day event in a game reserve ourselves for...

RomanticGreenStation, tuesday 26-Mar-24 1 28 1
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Food for photographers etc.
Aimee, 15 of February of 2024 at 14:24

Hi all What is the appropriate etiquette for providing food for people you have hired? We have two photographers and a videographer (or two, not sure yet). The photographers have said they don't...

Christian, tuesday 26-Mar-24 18 485 1
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Wedding Favours for Bride & Groom
Jade, 16 of March of 2024 at 15:40

A random thought occurred to me. Do I put wedding favours and mine and (my soon to be) husbands place settings? We have resin name coasters and then little bags with either pink gin or whisky and a...

Jade, friday 22-Mar-24 5 128
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Transfer opinions
Chelsea, 13 of March of 2024 at 16:33

Honest opinions, Is a 35/40 min journey to long.? from place of marriage to the reception xx

Antony R Turner Phot, friday 22-Mar-24 1 20
Cazpot88
Photography payments
Cazpot88, 20 of February of 2024 at 18:04

Hey beauts, need some advice We found a photographer on Facebook who charge different amounts depending on how many hours you wantThey've already sent me their bank details for the deposit, which is...

Cazpot88, friday 22-Mar-24 10 144
Dani from Hitched
Ever felt judged on how much you've spent on your wedding? 👀
Dani from Hitched, 22 of March of 2024 at 09:35

Hey, lovely people! Let's dive straight in... 📢 It's time to stop judging people for how much they spend on their weddings 📢 Our Editor Zoe Burke explains why she is over people criticising wedding...

Dani from Hitched, friday 22-Mar-24 54 1
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Save the Date/invitations through Hitched
Adam, 21 of March of 2024 at 05:23

Good morning Has anyone used the Save the Date/Invitations function through Hitched? I've had a quick look and it doesn't seem there is much you can do to personalise them? Also can you select who you...

Adam, thursday 21-Mar-24 11
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Giving away
Kayleigh, 8 of January of 2024 at 14:20

Has anyone had anyone other than their father/stepfather etc give them away? I’m getting married in August 2024 and I don’t have anything to do with my parents or family. I don’t really have anyone in...

Jasmine, wednesday 20-Mar-24 19 455
Sam
Best Man Issue
Sam, 18 of March of 2024 at 10:02

Hi. I'm looking for advice if possible. I have two best mates. One of which (B) I have been mates with since we were 14. The other (A) I have been best mates with since 18. We are all now 30/31. When...

RomanticGreenStation, monday 18-Mar-24 1 62
Harriet
Save the dates questions!
Harriet, 18 of February of 2024 at 12:28

Hi, We are so excited because we booked our venue in Italy for October 2025! When would you suggest we send out the save the dates? We thought we would do it around April of this year so that there is...

Harriet, monday 18-Mar-24 23 535
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Divorced parents
Georgia, 12 of March of 2024 at 10:59

Hi everyone recently engaged and just getting my head together. My parents are divorced and remarried ( my mum is also divorced again but I will be having my mum's ex there as he is my step dad) and...

Rose, sunday 17-Mar-24 3 47
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Walking down the aisle by myself
Gayle, 27 of February of 2024 at 19:04

Hi everyone I’m just wondering if there is anyone on here that has/or is planning to walk down the aisle by themselves? I’m getting married in May 2025 and my dad passed away 4 years ago. He was...

Jade, saturday 16-Mar-24 15 367 1
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Gift of euros request wording
Tracey, 11 of March of 2024 at 10:25

Hi, has anyone asked for euros as gifts? I’m struggling to find wording. 🤦🏻‍♀️ help 🤯🤯🙏🏼

Tracey, saturday 16-Mar-24 2 22
Sian
Waking up with your husband to be on your wedding day
Sian, 21 of February of 2024 at 09:11

Has anyone spent the night before your wedding with your husband to be and woke up together and had breakfast together? Our wedding is a twilight wedding so not until 4pm and the bridal suite is...

Alexis, wednesday 13-Mar-24 14 706 1
Lisa
Wedding registry office before actual wedding day!
Lisa, 7 of March of 2024 at 08:41

What would anyone advise that is doing the same thing we’re getting married on the 24th of May 2025, but having the legal documents all signed a few days before at the registry office, but I’m...

Ivana, saturday 9-Mar-24 2 55
Hannah
Do you include all your information on your Save The Dates?
Hannah, 15 of June of 2022 at 09:38

Hey all! It's Hannah, the Hitched Community Manager here! I've seen a lot of questions about invites and save the dates recently so I want to hear from you! When making your Save The Dates - do you...

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Venue Issue
Sophie, 4 of March of 2024 at 12:08

We are getting married in November 2024 and when we first booked our venue (December 2022) the coordinator was fantastic we basically booked because of her (and the venue is stunning!) I didn't hear...

RomanticGreenStation, friday 8-Mar-24 1 73 1
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Celebrant wedding
Shelley, 27 of January of 2024 at 22:35

Hello, I like the idea of a celebrant wedding, but do you have to do the legal bit before hand, or can you have a celebrant wedding and get married after ?

PhotographybyBillHad, wednesday 6-Mar-24 6 103
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Would you go with this venue?
Alana, 25 of February of 2024 at 11:22

Hi gals, I am totally unsure of what to do here and would love an outsider's opinion. My partner and I have stumbled across a unicorn venue in a PERFECT location (both in terms of distance from our...

Ivana, monday 4-Mar-24 4 161
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What do i do
Lara, 28 of February of 2024 at 21:38

So one of my close friends is getting married and has invited all of our friends and their partners but after inviting my partner previously, removed their invitation. Basically at the beginning of...

Ivana, monday 4-Mar-24 2 121
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Sister/ moh jealousy
Chloe, 2 of March of 2024 at 23:51

My sister has always had a strange paranoia about people talking to me more than her or if someone commented I looked nice she’d be annoyed they didn’t say it to her. She got married 3 years ago. When...

Ivana, monday 4-Mar-24 2 84
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Present timings
Kathryn, 27 of February of 2024 at 13:40

Hi! Very minor detail but…when are people thinking of giving thank you gifts to readers/those helping set up on the day? Bridesmaids and Groomsmen will get their gifts the morning of but I wondered if...

Kathryn, wednesday 28-Feb-24 8 111
Cazpot88
Payments for photography
Cazpot88, 20 of February of 2024 at 18:01

Hey beauts, need some advice We found a photographer on Facebook who charge different amounts depending on how many hours you want They've already sent me their bank details for the deposit, which is...

Lissette_Petrie, tuesday 27-Feb-24 70
Emily
Gifts for parents of the groom?
Emily, 9 of February of 2024 at 11:12

Anyone any ideas on gifts for parents of the groom? I'm sorted for my parents as they have more of a significant role on the day, but struggling to come up with something for my future in-laws....

Melissa, monday 26-Feb-24 1 66
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Singing waiters planned as a surprise
Lauren, 23 of October of 2023 at 13:28

I just want to get everyone’s thoughts on this. I’ve just found out that my in-laws have booked singing waiters for our wedding day and they hadn’t asked us beforehand. We’re having a small and...

Brendan, sunday 25-Feb-24 8 361
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2025 wedding
Carlene, 23 of January of 2024 at 09:44

Hi beauts, I need reassurance over something Me and my fiance are planning to get married in March 2025, we got engaged on Boxing Day My cousin and his fiancee are getting married June of that year...

Leanne, friday 23-Feb-24 18 736
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Seating Plans
Amy, 15 of February of 2024 at 15:58

Can you all tell me how you are doing your seating plans for the top table for a small wedding please? We are having a maximum of 30 people for our ceremony and wedding breakfast and then up to 100...

Samantha, monday 19-Feb-24 3 69
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Canapés or no canapés?
Laura, 16 of February of 2024 at 19:01

Would love some advice please! I’m getting married in May 2024. We’re having a sunset wedding meaning that the ceremony starts at 19:30. We’re all to be seated for the wedding breakfast for 21:00....

Sammy, monday 19-Feb-24 2 46
Phoebe
Un Ask Groomsmem
Phoebe, 29 of January of 2024 at 18:04

Hi, I’m in a dilemma. My partner has asked 2 of his mates to be groomsmen. We used to spend a lot of time with them and their girlfriends but recently they have started spending a lot of time without...

Expensivepurplecars4, saturday 17-Feb-24 3 153
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i don’t want my mums husband at my wedding… help?
Alice, 5 of February of 2024 at 23:02

The title may sound harsh, so let me explain. I’m 25, engaged to be married in spring 2026 of my partner of (currently) just over 6.5 years. I have a rather small family, only one half sibling I see...

Alice, wednesday 14-Feb-24 2 117
Lucy
Bridesmaid - unsure on 1
Lucy, 12 of February of 2024 at 14:47

Hi Everyone, I am having a small (50-60) destination wedding and I am set on having 2 Bridesmen (family) and 1 MOH (closest friend) My fiance is only having his bestman and no groomsmen. Now I have 1...

Leanne, tuesday 13-Feb-24 2 78

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